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Wounds Without the War: The Silent Toll of Secondary PTSD

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
6 days ago

The toll of Secondary PTSD can be just as heavy as firsthand trauma, especially for caregivers and professionals who carry the emotional weight of others’ pain. Without proper support and boundaries, the toll of Secondary PTSD can quietly erode a person’s well-being, leaving them overwhelmed, disconnected, and emotionally exhausted.

Wounds Without the War: The Silent Toll of Secondary PTSD

You didn’t experience the trauma yourself—but why does it feel like you did?

When we think about Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), we often picture combat veterans, survivors of violence, or those who’ve endured life-threatening events. But trauma doesn't always knock directly on your door. Sometimes, it creeps in through someone else’s—through the stories we absorb, the pain we witness, and the people we love.

This is the world of Secondary PTSD—a quiet, consuming form of trauma that affects those who support, care for, or work closely with people who’ve endured traumatic experiences. And unlike its better-known counterpart, secondary PTSD often goes unspoken, unseen, and untreated.

What Is Secondary PTSD?

Secondary PTSD, also known as vicarious trauma or compassion fatigue, occurs when someone develops trauma-related symptoms as a result of exposure to another person’s trauma. This is commonly seen in mental health professionals, emergency responders, nurses, social workers, and even loved ones of trauma survivors.

Imagine listening, day after day, to heartbreaking stories of abuse, war, loss, or violence. Over time, these stories begin to lodge themselves in your psyche. You might feel anxious, emotionally numb, avoidant, or overly alert. You may start having nightmares or flashbacks—not of your own memories, but of someone else’s suffering.

You’re not weak. You’re not overly sensitive. You’re human—and you’re absorbing more pain than the body or brain was ever meant to carry.

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When Caring Hurts

For many, the hardest part of secondary PTSD is the guilt. You might tell yourself: “It wasn’t my trauma. I have no right to feel this way.” But that guilt only deepens the damage.

In fact, studies show that secondary trauma can mirror the symptoms of direct PTSD—including intrusive thoughts, mood swings, hypervigilance, depression, and burnout. Yet many who suffer feel they must push through for the sake of their clients, loved ones, or patients.

This constant emotional labor leads to chronic fatigue, emotional detachment, and a loss of joy—especially in the very work or relationships that once brought purpose.

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Self-Care Isn’t a Luxury—It’s Lifesaving

The antidote to secondary trauma isn’t to stop caring—it’s to care for yourself just as fiercely. Self-care in this context goes far beyond bubble baths or days off. It’s about deep, sustainable habits that protect your mental and emotional reserves.

This might look like setting emotional boundaries, getting supervision or consultation, practicing mindfulness, debriefing after difficult sessions, or attending therapy yourself. It’s recognizing when you’re over-capacitated and learning how to step back before burnout takes hold.

Rest, reflection, and regulation are essential—not selfish. They’re what allow you to keep showing up with integrity and compassion, without losing yourself in someone else’s story.

Final Thought:

If you can absorb trauma secondhand, shouldn’t you deserve healing firsthand?

The 15-Minute Secret to Beating Stress in Helping Professions

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
Jan 17

Discover the 15-Minute secret to beating stress—a simple yet powerful way to recharge and regain focus, even in the busiest of helping professions. With just 15 minutes a day, you can transform your stress levels and create lasting calm amidst the chaos.

The 15-Minute Secret to Beating Stress in Helping Professions

The reality of working in a helping profession—whether as a teacher, therapist, nurse, social worker, or caregiver—is that you’re constantly giving. Your job revolves around other people’s needs: offering support, guidance, comfort, and understanding. But here's the catch—if you're not careful, the emotional and physical toll of helping others can leave you feeling depleted, burned out, and overwhelmed.

While it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, there's one thing that often gets neglected in the rush: you. Taking care of yourself isn't a luxury—it’s a necessity. And here's the good news: You don’t need hours of free time to recharge. In fact, carving out just 15 minutes a day for self-care can be the game changer you’ve been looking for.

So how can you incorporate quick yet effective self-care into your busy helping profession lifestyle? Let’s explore a few strategies that take only 15 minutes but can dramatically reduce stress, boost your mood, and replenish your energy.

1. The Power of Breath: A 5-Minute Mindful Breathing Break

When the weight of the world feels on your shoulders, taking a moment to breathe deeply can work wonders. Mindful breathing helps activate your body’s relaxation response, reducing cortisol (the stress hormone) and calming the nervous system.

How it works: Find a quiet spot, close your eyes, and take a slow, deep breath in for a count of four. Hold for four counts, and then exhale slowly for another count of four. Repeat for five minutes. Focus solely on your breath—if your mind drifts, gently guide it back to the inhale and exhale.

Why it’s effective: This simple practice takes almost no effort but can have immediate effects on stress reduction. A few minutes of mindful breathing can improve focus, increase emotional regulation, and help you feel more grounded, even in the midst of chaos.

2. Body Scan Meditation: Relax and Reset in 10 Minutes

Stress often manifests in our bodies—tight shoulders, clenched jaws, or a stiff neck. The body scan technique helps you identify and release physical tension by moving your awareness through each part of your body.

How it works: Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Start with your toes and slowly bring your attention upward, mentally scanning each part of your body for tension. As you focus on each area, consciously release the tension with each exhale. Take your time with each muscle group, from your feet all the way up to your head.

Why it’s effective: The body scan method not only promotes relaxation but also brings awareness to how stress affects your physical state. It helps you become more in tune with your body’s signals, allowing you to release tension before it becomes a larger problem.

3. Quick Power Nap: Recharge Your Batteries in 10-15 Minutes

Helping professionals often find themselves running on empty, especially when they’re juggling multiple responsibilities. One of the best ways to restore your energy quickly is with a power nap.

How it works: Find a quiet place to rest. Set an alarm for 10-15 minutes (just enough to enter the light sleep phase). Close your eyes, focus on your breath, and allow your body to relax deeply without worrying about falling asleep.

Why it’s effective: Studies show that short naps can improve alertness, memory, and mood. A quick 10-minute nap can be like hitting a mental reset button, helping you feel more energized and refreshed for the rest of your day.

4. Gratitude Journaling: Shift Your Focus in 5 Minutes

When you're in a helping profession, it’s easy to become absorbed in the needs of others and forget to acknowledge the positives in your own life. Gratitude journaling is a simple practice that can shift your mindset, reduce stress, and foster a sense of well-being.

How it works: Take five minutes each day to write down three things you’re grateful for. They don’t have to be big things—maybe it’s the warmth of your morning coffee, a kind message from a colleague, or the joy of watching a sunset.

Why it’s effective: Research has shown that practicing gratitude helps reduce stress, enhance happiness, and improve overall mental health. By taking time to recognize what’s good in your life, you can shift your perspective away from stress and burnout.

5. A Quick Walk: Reconnect with Yourself and Nature

Sometimes, all you need is a change of scenery to reset your mind. A quick walk outside, even if it’s just around the block or a few laps in a nearby park, can provide a much-needed break from the intensity of helping others.

How it works: Put on your shoes, step outside, and begin walking at a comfortable pace. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Let the physical movement help release tension and give your mind a break from the workday.

Why it’s effective: Walking boosts mood, lowers stress, and increases creativity. Exposure to nature has also been shown to reduce mental fatigue and improve concentration. Even a short walk can help you return to your tasks feeling clearer and more focused.

6. Creative Outlet: 15 Minutes of Art, Writing, or Music

When you’re constantly caring for others, it can be difficult to find the time or energy to nurture your own creative side. But expressing yourself through art, journaling, or music, even for just 15 minutes, can help release pent-up emotions and improve your mental health.

How it works: Dedicate 15 minutes to a creative activity you enjoy—whether it’s sketching, writing in a journal, playing an instrument, or even coloring. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s self-expression.

Why it’s effective: Creative activities help activate the brain’s reward centers, reduce stress, and foster a sense of accomplishment. Taking a short break to engage in something you enjoy can provide a sense of balance and relaxation in your hectic day.

The Bottom Line: You Deserve These 15 Minutes

Helping others is incredibly rewarding, but it can also be draining. Professors, nurses, social workers, and caregivers are often the first to put their own needs on the back burner. However, if you’re constantly running on empty, you risk burning out and becoming less effective in your role.

The truth is, you don’t need hours of self-care each day to stay mentally healthy. Just 15 minutes a day can make all the difference in reducing stress, improving your mood, and preventing burnout.

So, ask yourself: Can you really afford not to take 15 minutes for your own well-being? Your mind, body, and the people you help will thank you for it.

Quick Self-Care Checklist:

5 minutes of mindful breathing
10 minutes of body scan meditation
10-15 minute power nap
5 minutes of gratitude journaling
A 15-minute walk in nature
15 minutes of creative expression

Take a moment. Breathe. Care for yourself. You deserve it.

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