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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Jun 6

Burnout often shows up quietly—through exhaustion, irritability, or a sense of emotional numbness—long before we recognize its toll. Taking small, consistent steps to care for yourself daily can be the key to preventing burnout before it takes hold.

Burnout Doesn’t Come With a Warning Light—But Here’s How to Catch It Early

Let’s be honest: most of us don’t realize we’re on the edge of burnout until we’ve already slid off the cliff. One day you’re multitasking like a pro, and the next, you’re crying in the bathroom over a calendar notification or snapping at someone you love for forgetting to load the dishwasher.


Burnout doesn’t announce itself with sirens. It creeps in quietly, disguised as productivity, responsibility, and ambition. But there are signs—subtle, small, and absolutely worth noticing. Catching burnout early is not just about preventing a crash; it’s about preserving your energy, your relationships, and your joy.



Here are small, powerful things you can do—even with a busy schedule—to take care of yourself before burnout takes over:


1. Start Your Day With an Internal “Weather Report”


Before jumping into emails, meetings, or breakfast prep, check in with yourself like you’d check the weather. Ask:


  • What’s the emotional forecast today?

  • Where do I feel it in my body?

  • What’s one thing I can do to make today easier for myself?


This quick pause helps you notice fatigue, resentment, or anxiety before they escalate.


2. Redefine “Self-Care” as Micro-Acts of Maintenance


Forget the bubble baths and yoga retreats (unless that’s your thing). Real self-care is what you do in between your responsibilities:


  • Take 10 deep breaths before you open your laptop.

  • Drink a glass of water before your next call.

  • Step outside and feel actual sunlight on your skin—even for one minute.


Tiny acts add up when done with intention.


3. Use Transitions to Your Advantage


Going from work to home mode? Leaving a stressful conversation? Pause for 30 seconds and ask, What energy am I carrying right now, and do I want to bring it into this next moment?


It’s like wiping your mental shoes before stepping into the next room of your life.


4. Anchor Into Something That’s Just for You


No matter how busy your day is, find something—one thing—that is yours and yours alone. A 5-minute playlist that makes you feel alive. A silly meme account that gives you joy. A post-it note mantra on your mirror. This is less about escape and more about grounding.


5. Name Your Wins—Even the Tiny Ones


You answered that hard email. You drank more water. You didn’t lose your temper when you could’ve. You tried. That counts.


Noticing effort builds resilience. Burnout feeds on the feeling that nothing you do is enough.


6. Put a Boundary on the Invisible Work


You know the kind—worrying about everyone’s needs, double-checking what didn’t get done, mentally redoing a conversation. If you can't stop overthinking, give yourself a scheduled worry window. Set a timer. Let the mental noise run. Then move on.


You don’t have to carry it all, all the time.


7. End Your Day With Care, Not Collapse


Even if your day felt like a sprint, give yourself two minutes to close it intentionally:


  • What’s one thing I did well today?

  • What do I want to leave behind?

  • What does my body need tonight?


Treat yourself like someone worth winding down for—because you are.



Final Thought:You don’t need to wait until you're depleted to care for yourself. In fact, the best time to care for yourself is before you think you need to.


And here’s the eye-opening question to reflect on:


If you treated your energy like your most valuable asset, what would you do differently today?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • May 11

Work stress can silently drain emotional energy, leaving little room for meaningful social interaction after hours. Over time, this chronic stress can erode not only mental well-being but also the quality of our closest relationships.

When the Clock Out Means Shut Down: How Work Stress Is Quietly Killing Our Social Lives

In today’s always-on world, work doesn’t just follow us home—it seeps into our minds, our bodies, and even our relationships. For millions of adults, particularly in high-pressure or emotionally demanding jobs, the stress of the workday doesn’t end when they log off. Instead, it lingers like a cloud, draining the energy and emotional capacity needed for connection, fun, and intimacy.


We’re told that if we work hard enough, success will buy us freedom. But more often than not, hustle culture trades our time and emotional availability for productivity. The result? We show up less for the people we love and—even more heartbreakingly—for ourselves.

While workplace burnout is finally part of the wellness conversation, its impact on our social lives remains largely unspoken. Yet, it's a growing issue that quietly erodes our ability to engage with the people who matter most, leaving many to wonder why they feel so disconnected even when they’re “doing everything right.”



Why We Stop Reaching Out


After a long day filled with back-to-back meetings, emotional labor, and relentless pressure, the idea of socializing—even with people we care deeply about—can feel like just another demand. It's not that we don’t want to connect; it’s that we’re emotionally tapped out.

Chronic work stress activates the body’s fight-or-flight response. In this state, the brain prioritizes survival over social bonding, making small talk feel trivial and deeper conversation feel overwhelming. When stress becomes a daily experience, social withdrawal isn’t a choice—it’s a coping mechanism.


This fatigue doesn’t just affect after-hours plans. It can erode friendships, reduce our responsiveness to loved ones, and slowly shift our identity from socially engaged to emotionally unavailable.


The Isolation Feedback Loop


Withdrawing from others might offer temporary relief, but over time, it feeds into a dangerous loop. The less we interact socially, the fewer positive emotional experiences we accumulate. Without those micro-moments of joy, laughter, and connection, our overall emotional resilience takes a hit. We become more vulnerable to anxiety, irritability, and depression.


What’s worse, our silence can be misunderstood. Friends may assume we’ve become disinterested, partners may feel rejected, and we may start to internalize the narrative that something is wrong with us. All the while, what we really need is understanding, rest, and space to recalibrate.


Young Professionals and the Quiet Trade-Off


Millennials and Gen Z professionals are uniquely impacted. They’ve come of age in a culture that glorified the grind and often tied personal worth to professional achievement. Remote work, gig economy jobs, and digital overload have blurred the line between life and labor even further.


For many, the result is a silent but profound loneliness. Despite hyperconnectivity through devices and social platforms, meaningful face-to-face time has dwindled. The shift toward isolation isn’t just a personal problem—it’s a generational one. Many young professionals are now waking up to the realization that they’ve traded too much for too little.


Rebuilding the Social Self


Healing begins with permission—permission to rest, to say no, to reconnect slowly. It requires us to challenge the belief that productivity is the highest virtue and instead prioritize emotional sustainability. This might look like scheduling intentional time with loved ones, even if it’s just for a short walk. Or allowing ourselves to feel the full weight of our fatigue without guilt.



We also have to normalize reaching out when we’re struggling. Just as we set professional goals, we can set relational ones: to call a friend once a week, to attend that dinner even when it’s easier to cancel, to be honest about needing support.


Reconnection isn’t about performance—it’s about presence. It’s about remembering that joy, laughter, and even small moments of shared vulnerability are not indulgences—they are lifelines.


A Final Thought


If work is costing you your joy, your rest, and your relationships—what exactly are you working for?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Nov 27, 2024

Celebrating small wins is a powerful way to build momentum and boost your mental health, reminding yourself that every step forward counts. Whether it’s completing a task, setting a boundary, or simply getting through a tough day, acknowledging these victories can help you stay focused and motivated.

Skipping Thanksgiving? Here's Why Celebrating Small Wins Can Be Your True Path to Bliss

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of joy, but for many, it can feel like a pressure cooker of stress, social anxiety, and emotional exhaustion. Thanksgiving, in particular, is synonymous with large gatherings, grand meals, and the expectation to feel “thankful”—but for some, these traditions can feel anything but joyous. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the obligations of the holiday or the pressure to meet certain social standards, you’re not alone.


But here’s the good news: skipping Thanksgiving doesn’t mean missing out on joy. In fact, it could be the most liberating choice you make. Instead of conforming to the hustle and bustle, why not focus on what truly matters: celebrating yourself. By shifting your focus away from the chaotic holiday narrative and honing in on your own small wins, you can create a sense of peace, joy, and accomplishment—without the holiday stress.


The Overwhelm of Traditional Thanksgiving: A Day of Expectation


For some, Thanksgiving brings with it the stress of family dynamics, long travel times, and the pressure of “perfecting” the day. If you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, or feeling disconnected from family, the idea of a massive dinner or social obligation can feel suffocating. The very notion of feeling "grateful" can seem hollow when you're overwhelmed, burnt out, or emotionally drained. It's easy to start thinking that Thanksgiving isn’t a time for celebration, but for many, it becomes just another day filled with expectations.


But what if you didn’t have to take part in the traditional holiday celebration? What if you could make Thanksgiving your own and focus on celebrating your personal growth and accomplishments instead? For those of us who struggle with social anxiety, family conflict, or simply the weight of tradition, opting out can be a powerful act of self-care. It’s a way to reclaim the space you need for peace and reflection, all while honoring the quiet victories in your life.


Celebrating Small Wins: A New Kind of Gratitude


The beauty of choosing to skip Thanksgiving is that it allows you to embrace a new form of celebration. Instead of focusing on the larger-than-life moments, you can focus on the small, often overlooked achievements that have shaped your year. These small wins might not have the same grandeur as a holiday feast, but they are just as, if not more, important for your mental health and well-being.


1. The Win of Getting Through a Tough Week


Maybe your biggest achievement this year hasn’t been a promotion or a grand accomplishment, but simply surviving a difficult week. Maybe you juggled work stress, family obligations, and your own mental health challenges—and you made it through. That’s worth celebrating! The act of simply being when life feels overwhelming is a victory in itself. Take time to honor your resilience.


Example: If you’ve recently managed a stressful work deadline or dealt with a personal health struggle and still showed up for yourself—no matter how tired or emotionally drained you felt—that’s a win. Pour yourself a cup of your favorite tea, take a long bath, and reflect on how far you’ve come.


2. The Win of Taking a Mental Health Day


Sometimes, the best thing you can do for your mental health is to take a break—and that’s not always easy. If you’ve taken a mental health day this year, congratulations! Recognizing the need for rest and emotional recovery is a massive step toward self-awareness and self-love.


Example: Maybe this year you took a day off work to rest after a stressful period, or perhaps you allowed yourself a day to relax with no expectations. These seemingly simple actions help you restore your energy, recharge your emotional batteries, and remind yourself that you matter.


3. The Win of Saying "No"


Setting boundaries is a huge win—yet it’s often underrated. If you’ve said "no" to a commitment or request that didn’t serve you this year, you’ve already accomplished something significant. Saying no isn’t always easy, especially when there are external pressures. But doing so in favor of your own needs and well-being is a reflection of your personal growth.


Example: Perhaps you said no to attending a family gathering that would have drained you emotionally, or maybe you didn’t take on extra work when you were already overloaded. These are not small actions—they’re powerful forms of self-care.


4. The Win of Practicing Self-Compassion


In a world where perfection is often glorified, showing yourself compassion is a quiet but powerful victory. If you’ve worked on silencing your inner critic or given yourself permission to not be perfect, you’ve made tremendous progress.


Example: Maybe you’ve learned to forgive yourself for past mistakes or chosen to celebrate your efforts, not just the results. Perhaps you’ve been kinder to yourself on days when everything felt like too much. These moments of self-compassion pave the way for healthier mental habits in the long run.


5. The Win of Finding Joy in the Simple Things


In a world that’s constantly moving, it can be easy to overlook the small, everyday joys. Finding delight in simple pleasures—whether it’s watching a sunset, reading a book, or taking a walk—can provide a deep sense of fulfillment. Celebrating these small moments can bring you a profound sense of gratitude without the need for grandiose celebrations.


Example: Maybe this year, you found joy in something simple: the feel of soft rain on your face, a delicious cup of coffee in the morning, or the quiet satisfaction of a well-tended garden. These small moments are the quiet, sustainable sources of joy that contribute to your mental well-being.


The Bliss of Your Own Celebration


By focusing on your personal victories, you take back the narrative of what it means to "celebrate." Instead of feeling obligated to participate in large social gatherings that cause anxiety, you can create a meaningful experience for yourself. Skipping Thanksgiving can give you the space to acknowledge how far you’ve come, the challenges you’ve faced, and the progress you’ve made. And perhaps most importantly, it allows you to celebrate your own journey on your own terms.


Final Thoughts: Embrace the Power of Small Wins


This Thanksgiving, consider turning away from traditional celebrations and focusing on what really matters: celebrating you. Whether it’s taking the day to reflect, indulging in self-care, or simply acknowledging your wins, choosing to focus on your growth can provide you with a deep sense of fulfillment and peace. After all, true gratitude begins with appreciating yourself—and the quiet victories that shape who you are.


So, this year, forget the turkey and the holiday bustle. Instead, focus on the small but mighty wins you’ve made—and take the time to celebrate them. Because you deserve it.


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