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Learning to handle setbacks with patience and self-compassion is a crucial part of any healing journey. Setbacks aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to pause, reflect, and grow stronger than before.

“Why Am I Slipping Again?” — How to Handle Setbacks Without Losing Your Progress in Recovery

In the early days of recovery—whether from trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, or burnout—progress often feels tangible. You’re attending therapy, practicing new habits, and maybe even sleeping better. But then, seemingly out of nowhere, the heaviness returns. You spiral after one bad day. You stop journaling. You snap at someone you love. And suddenly, you're asking yourself: Have I undone all my progress?


You haven’t. Healing doesn’t follow a straight path. It loops, stumbles, and revisits old terrain. What matters is not whether you fall back—it’s how you respond when you do.


Recognize the Signs Early


The earlier you can spot a setback in motion, the easier it is to keep it from pulling you down. Some early red flags might include:


  • Withdrawing from support: Avoiding friends, family, or support groups can indicate you're retreating into isolation.


  • Increased negative self-talk: Thoughts like "I'm not good enough" or "I can't do this" can erode self-esteem.


  • Disrupted routines: Skipping therapy sessions, neglecting self-care, or abandoning healthy habits can signal a slip.


  • Emotional numbness: Feeling detached or disconnected from your emotions may be a defense mechanism against stress.


Acknowledging these signs doesn’t mean labeling them as failure—it means you’re self-aware enough to pivot before things deepen.


Respond, Don’t React


When you notice a backslide, your instinct might be to panic or shame yourself into “fixing it.” But panic is not a plan. Pause instead.


Try asking:


  • What’s changed recently in my environment or stress levels? Identifying external factors can help pinpoint triggers.


  • What am I feeling underneath the surface reaction? Exploring underlying emotions can provide clarity.


  • What helped last time I felt like this? Reflecting on past coping strategies can offer guidance.


Responding with curiosity instead of criticism allows you to re-engage your tools without reinforcing self-blame.


Rebuild Small, Not Perfect


You don’t need to return to the perfect version of your recovery routine. Start with one small anchor:


  • A short walk: Physical activity can boost mood and energy levels.


  • A single journaling prompt: Writing down thoughts can provide emotional release.


  • One therapy session: Professional support can offer new perspectives.


  • A five-minute meditation: Mindfulness practices can reduce stress and increase focus.


Small wins reinforce your ability to care for yourself again. Progress isn’t about intensity—it’s about consistency.


Reframe the Setback


Instead of asking, Why is this happening again? consider:


  • What is this setback showing me about what I still need? Viewing setbacks as informative can guide future actions.


  • What new layer of healing am I being invited into? Recognizing growth opportunities can transform challenges into learning experiences.


Every spiral is an opportunity to uncover deeper truths, not proof that you’re broken. You are evolving—and evolution is messy.


Reconnect to Your Support System


Even if you feel ashamed or exhausted, reach out to someone. A therapist. A trusted friend. A support group. Let them know you’re struggling. Connection is often the lifeline that grounds us back to our goals. You don’t need to do this alone—nor were you ever meant to.


Closing Reflection


Healing isn’t about never falling—it’s about learning how to stand back up with a little more wisdom each time.


So when the path gets rocky again, ask yourself this: What if my setback is not a detour—but the next step forward?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
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Note: This content is fictional and created with the intention to inspire, uplift, and support you on your mental health journey. If it feels discouraging, please feel free to disregard it—your well-being is always the priority.

From the Bottom to the Bloom: Vue's Journey of Overcoming Alcoholism and Reclaiming His Life

Alcoholism isn’t just a physical addiction—it’s a mental and emotional battle that can take years to overcome. For many, the journey to recovery is long, filled with struggles, setbacks, and moments of doubt. But for Vue, a man who found himself trapped in the dark cycles of addiction, recovery wasn’t just about quitting alcohol—it was about rediscovering who he truly was and returning to his roots.


The Struggle: From Numbing Pain to Losing Control


Vue’s story of alcoholism began like many others—a way to escape the pressures and emotional weight of life. For years, alcohol served as a coping mechanism, numbing the pain of past trauma and current stress. What started as casual drinking quickly spiraled into something far more destructive. Vue found himself in a cycle of daily drinking, where alcohol became his only escape. The more he drank, the more disconnected he became from himself, his family, and his dreams.


“I didn’t know who I was anymore,” Vue recalls. “The person I was before the alcohol felt so distant. I was lost in a fog, just trying to get through each day.”


Eventually, his health began to deteriorate—physically, emotionally, and mentally. Vue knew something had to change, but the idea of breaking free from alcohol seemed nearly impossible. His addiction had become so deeply entrenched that it felt like an insurmountable wall.


The Turning Point: A Moment of Clarity


One night, after a particularly difficult binge, Vue had a moment of clarity that would change everything. “I was sitting alone in my apartment, drunk again, and it hit me: I couldn’t keep doing this. I didn’t want to keep living like this,” he shares. “I was suffocating in my own choices. But I didn’t know where to start.”


It wasn’t an overnight decision, but that night marked the beginning of Vue’s commitment to reclaiming his life. It started with small steps—attending a support group, reaching out to others who had been through similar struggles, and facing the hard truth about the damage alcohol had done to his body and mind. “The hardest part was admitting I couldn’t do it alone,” Vue admits. “It was humbling to ask for help, but that was the first real step toward healing.”


The Road to Recovery: Facing the Dark and Finding the Light


Recovery was not easy, and it didn’t come quickly. Vue faced many relapses, moments of self-doubt, and intense cravings. There were times when he felt like giving up, when the weight of his past mistakes seemed too heavy to carry. But through it all, he stayed committed to the process, leaning into therapy, support groups, and developing healthier habits.


One of the most powerful tools for Vue was reconnecting with his roots. He began to explore mindfulness practices, exercise, and journaling—small rituals that helped him reclaim his sense of self. “I had to find new ways to deal with stress, new ways to feel alive without alcohol,” he says. “Exercise became my outlet. It wasn’t just about getting physically healthy—it was about getting mentally healthy too.”


Vue also learned the importance of setting boundaries with people who were still in toxic environments or enabling his addiction. Cutting ties with old habits, places, and even people was a painful yet necessary part of his recovery.


Returning to Soil: Rediscovering Purpose and Resilience


As Vue continued to rebuild his life, something remarkable began to happen—he started to rediscover himself. The fog lifted, and for the first time in years, he felt like the person he had been before addiction. It wasn’t an easy process, but with each passing day, he grew stronger.


“I realized I had been running from myself,” Vue reflects. “Alcohol kept me from facing the truth about who I was. But once I stopped hiding from my pain, I could start healing. It was like planting seeds in soil that had been dry for so long—slowly, but surely, I began to bloom.”


Today, Vue is over two years sober, and his life has changed in ways he never thought possible. He’s reconnected with his family, rediscovered his passions, and found a new sense of purpose. But most importantly, he’s learned to be kind to himself. “I’m not perfect, and I still have my moments,” he says. “But I’ve learned that recovery isn’t about being perfect—it’s about progress, about showing up for yourself every day, even when it’s hard.”


The Takeaway: A Message of Hope


Vue’s journey is a powerful reminder that recovery from alcoholism is not just about quitting drinking—it’s about reclaiming your life, rebuilding your identity, and embracing the strength you didn’t know you had. His story proves that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope for a brighter tomorrow.


If you’re struggling with addiction or any other mental health challenge, remember that you’re not alone. Recovery is possible, and no matter where you are in your journey, there is always a way back to yourself. It may not be easy, but it’s always worth it.


For Vue, the road ahead is still long, but with resilience, support, and a renewed sense of purpose, he knows that he’s finally on the right path.


"The key to recovery is remembering that it's not a straight line. It's messy, it’s tough, but every step forward is a victory."


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