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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Jan 1

This year, make mental health resolutions that go beyond just coping with stress and focus on building lasting emotional resilience. Setting intentional mental health resolutions, like practicing self-compassion and prioritizing rest, can transform not only your year but your entire outlook on life.

New Year, New Mindset: How to Make Mental Health Resolutions That Actually Stick

The arrival of a new year often feels like a blank slate—a fresh start, a new chapter. For many, it’s an opportunity to set resolutions, make changes, and aim for personal growth. But as we dive into the whirlwind of self-improvement goals, there’s one resolution that too often gets pushed to the backburner: our mental health.


While promises to hit the gym or eat healthier are common staples of New Year’s resolutions, the importance of mental well-being tends to take a backseat. However, after a year of collective challenges, uncertainties, and emotional exhaustion, prioritizing your mental health in 2025 could be the best goal you set for yourself.


But here’s the tricky part: How can we create meaningful mental health resolutions that don't just get tossed aside by February? How can we move beyond the usual "be more positive" or "stop stressing" and make tangible, lasting changes to improve our mental health?


The Year of Intentional Change


When it comes to mental health, intention is everything. It's easy to set vague resolutions like “I’ll be happier” or “I’ll be less anxious,” but how do you measure something so subjective? Instead of aiming for a perfect state of mind (which doesn’t exist), focus on intentional, sustainable changes that make an impact.



1. Start with Self-Compassion, Not Perfection


One of the most powerful resolutions you can make is to treat yourself with more kindness. We often judge ourselves harshly, especially when we fall short of our goals. But self-compassion isn’t just a fluffy buzzword; it’s a scientifically proven way to reduce stress and improve mental health. Instead of berating yourself for not being "perfect," practice understanding, patience, and care.


Small acts of self-compassion can look like speaking kindly to yourself in moments of failure, setting boundaries without guilt, and forgiving yourself when you make mistakes. This shift can create a mental environment of growth and healing rather than one of shame and frustration.


2. Prioritize Restful Sleep, Not Just More Hours


We live in a culture that often celebrates productivity over rest. The "rise and grind" mentality is toxic to our mental health, and studies show that poor sleep is directly linked to increased anxiety, depression, and cognitive impairment. This year, instead of resolving to "work harder," resolve to prioritize quality sleep.


Sleep is a vital part of emotional regulation. Good rest helps with memory consolidation, mood stabilization, and stress management. So, consider making small changes that could improve your sleep hygiene: limit screen time before bed, create a relaxing pre-sleep routine, and aim for consistency in your sleep schedule. Think of sleep as an investment in your mental health, not a luxury.


3. Practice Mindfulness Over Multitasking


In our fast-paced world, multitasking is often glorified. Yet research has shown that switching between tasks can actually decrease productivity and contribute to feelings of anxiety. This year, instead of spreading yourself thin, try focusing on mindfulness.


Mindfulness isn’t just about meditation—it’s about staying present in the moment. Whether you’re eating lunch, walking, or having a conversation, make a conscious effort to stay engaged and focused. This practice can help reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed, increase your emotional awareness, and create space for you to process your thoughts and feelings more effectively.


4. Build a Strong Support System, Not Just a Social Media Following


In the age of social media, it’s easy to feel connected online but isolated in real life. Building a support system based on real, face-to-face connections can significantly improve your mental well-being. A strong support system doesn't just consist of people who listen to you—it includes those who challenge you, make you laugh, and remind you of your worth.


This year, commit to nurturing relationships that matter. Whether it's spending more time with family, catching up with an old friend, or seeking professional support through therapy or a support group, surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being.


5. Set Boundaries with Your Time and Energy


As much as we might want to please others, constantly overextending ourselves takes a toll on our mental health. A powerful resolution for 2025 is learning to set healthy boundaries. It might mean saying "no" to extra work commitments, limiting time spent on draining activities, or not responding to messages after a certain hour.


Boundaries aren’t about being selfish—they’re about protecting your energy and maintaining your peace of mind. When you establish boundaries, you’re telling yourself that your mental and emotional well-being matters.


Making Mental Health Resolutions Stick


The key to sticking with mental health resolutions is not about setting perfectionist goals but about building habits that align with self-care and long-term well-being. Rather than focusing on the big, unattainable outcomes, look for small, actionable steps you can take every day to nurture your mind.


So, how do you start?


Begin by breaking down your mental health goals into tiny, manageable steps. Instead of committing to "be happier," aim for something concrete like “take five minutes each morning to focus on my breathing" or “call a friend once a week." Progress doesn’t have to be drastic to be impactful.


Lastly, be gentle with yourself. It's okay if you slip up or don't meet every goal perfectly. Mental health isn’t a destination—it’s a journey, and it’s important to celebrate every step forward, no matter how small.


The Eye-Opening Question:


As you plan your New Year’s resolutions, consider this: What if the best resolution you could make this year isn’t about achieving more, but about embracing who you truly are—imperfections, struggles, and all?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Dec 14, 2024

Caring for a loved one with dementia can be an incredibly rewarding yet emotionally taxing journey, as it requires constant patience, compassion, and adaptability. The challenges of caregiving often feel unrelenting, but nurturing both your loved one and yourself is essential to sustaining the emotional resilience needed for the road ahead.

Emotional Self-Care for Caregivers: Nurturing Your Heart While Caring for a Loved One with Dementia

When Bruce Willis, the iconic action hero known for his tough-guy roles, announced his diagnosis of aphasia—an illness that impairs speech and language—he and his family faced a new, unexpected chapter in their lives. Willis' family, including his wife Emma Heming and ex-wife Demi Moore, have stepped up as caregivers, navigating the difficult emotional terrain that comes with supporting a loved one through such a challenging condition. Their journey is a powerful reminder that caregiving isn’t just for the strong and stoic; it requires emotional resilience, vulnerability, and, above all, care for the caregiver.


As a caregiver for a loved one with dementia, you may not be facing the same public spotlight as Willis and his family, but the emotional toll can feel just as intense. Each day, you may feel the quiet weight of responsibility—the emotional strain that comes with watching someone you love lose pieces of themselves. It’s a role that demands your heart and soul, and yet, all too often, your own emotional needs fall to the wayside.


But here's the thing: you matter too. Nurturing your emotional health is not only essential for your well-being but also for your ability to show up for your loved one.


1. Acknowledge Your Emotions Without Judgment


As a caregiver, you may find yourself feeling a range of emotions—love, guilt, frustration, sadness, even resentment. These emotions are perfectly natural but can often feel overwhelming. You might feel guilty for feeling frustrated with a loved one who no longer recognizes you, or sad about the loss of the relationship you once shared.


Self-Care Tip: Recognize and validate your emotions. It’s important to accept your feelings without judgment. Experiencing frustration or grief doesn’t make you a bad caregiver—it makes you human. When you feel overwhelmed, allow yourself to say: "It’s okay to feel this way. I'm doing the best I can, and that’s enough."


By acknowledging your emotions, you begin to take the first step toward emotional relief, creating space to process and release what you're feeling.


2. Connect with Others Who Understand


Caregiving can often feel isolating, as it can be hard to find people who truly understand the emotional weight you carry. Sharing your experiences with someone who "gets it" can make a huge difference. This connection can offer emotional validation, reduce isolation, and help you feel heard and understood.


Self-Care Tip: Find a supportive community. Whether it’s a caregiver support group, a few trusted friends, or an online community, connecting with others can lighten your emotional load. If you can’t find a local group, look for online communities where caregivers share their experiences, advice, and offer one another emotional support.


Even though caregiving can feel like a solitary journey, it doesn't have to be. Leaning on others for support is a vital part of your emotional self-care.


3. Practice Mindful Breathing or Meditation


The emotional and physical demands of caregiving can leave little room for personal reflection or rest. However, one of the simplest ways to emotionally care for yourself is through mindfulness. Whether through deep breathing or short meditation sessions, these practices can help calm your mind and restore emotional balance.


Self-Care Tip: Incorporate brief mindfulness exercises into your day. It doesn’t require hours of meditation to feel the benefits. Try a few minutes of deep breathing when your loved one takes a nap or during a moment of quiet. Focus on slow, deep breaths in and out—this simple practice can provide a reset for your emotional state, even in the busiest of times.

Mindfulness gives you a space to pause, breathe, and release emotional tension.


4. Set Emotional Boundaries


As a caregiver, it’s easy to forget that you are a person with emotional needs too. When you’re giving so much of yourself to your loved one, it can feel like there’s little left for you. To maintain emotional health, it's crucial to set boundaries—both with your time and your emotional energy.


Self-Care Tip: Learn to say 'no' and ask for help. Setting boundaries is not about neglecting your loved one; it’s about recognizing your limits and taking proactive steps to protect your emotional well-being. If you need a break, ask for help, whether that’s from a family member, a friend, or a professional caregiver. Giving yourself permission to take a step back emotionally helps prevent burnout and ensures you can care for your loved one with the emotional resilience they need.


Remember, it's okay to take a break from emotional caregiving—even if it’s just for a short while.


5. Express Your Feelings Through Writing or Creative Outlets


Sometimes, words fail to express the complexity of what you're feeling as a caregiver. Journaling or engaging in creative activities can offer a cathartic outlet for these emotions. Whether it’s writing, drawing, or even music, expressing your feelings creatively can help release emotional tension and provide clarity.


Self-Care Tip: Start a journal or explore a creative outlet. Don’t worry about perfection—simply write down what you're feeling, whether it’s frustration, sadness, or small moments of joy. Sometimes, writing about your day can help you process emotions and shift your perspective. If journaling feels too structured, try something else that feels more spontaneous—like painting or sketching.


Allowing yourself creative expression helps you process the emotional challenges of caregiving and can be incredibly therapeutic.


6. Celebrate the Small Wins and Moments of Connection


In the midst of caregiving, it’s easy to feel like you’re losing more than you’re gaining. Yet, small moments of connection, joy, and progress can often go unnoticed. It’s important to pause and celebrate these moments—they offer emotional nourishment that can fuel you through the harder days.


Self-Care Tip: Notice the moments of connection. Whether it’s a smile from your loved one, a shared moment of laughter, or a brief but meaningful conversation, these moments can be powerful. Acknowledge them. Celebrate them. Even on tough days, these small wins are reminders of the love and humanity that still exists.


These moments of joy, however brief, are not distractions—they are the emotional anchors that help you stay grounded in the caregiving journey.


7. Give Yourself Permission to Grieve


Dementia and related conditions don’t just change your loved one—they also bring about deep, often unspoken grief for the caregiver. It’s okay to mourn the person your loved one once was, the future you envisioned, and the relationship that has shifted. Grief is an important part of the caregiving experience, and it needs to be acknowledged, not hidden.


Self-Care Tip: Allow yourself to grieve. There will be days when the sadness feels overwhelming. Whether it’s grieving lost memories, missed opportunities, or the gradual changes in your loved one, give yourself permission to feel these losses. Cry if you need to. Take time to mourn, but don’t feel you have to do it alone. Sharing your grief with a trusted friend or support group can offer relief and healing.


Grieving doesn’t mean you’re giving up—it means you’re processing the emotional complexities of caregiving with care and compassion.


8. Practice Gratitude, Even on Hard Days


In the face of emotional exhaustion, practicing gratitude can feel like an impossible task. But studies show that actively focusing on moments of gratitude—no matter how small—can help shift your emotional landscape and improve overall mental health.


Self-Care Tip: End your day by listing one thing you’re grateful for. It could be something simple—a kind gesture from a family member, a quiet moment with your loved one, or even just the fact that you got through the day. Acknowledging these small blessings helps counterbalance the challenges of caregiving and reminds you that there is light, even on the darkest days.


Gratitude doesn’t erase the difficulties, but it brings balance and perspective, offering you emotional nourishment along the way.


Conclusion: Your Emotional Well-Being Matters


Caregiving is a deeply rewarding but emotionally taxing journey. Just like Bruce Willis' family, who show incredible strength in their support, you too are doing important, meaningful work. But you can't pour from an empty cup. By embracing these emotional self-care practices, you can build the emotional resilience you need to face each day with compassion, strength, and grace.


Remember, you are not just a caregiver—you are a person with your own emotional needs. Taking time to care for your emotional well-being is not a luxury; it’s a necessity for both you and your loved one. You are worthy of care, compassion, and rest, too.


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Dec 13, 2024

When suicidal thoughts take over, finding your way back to hope starts with reaching out for support and using coping strategies. Find your way when suicidal thoughts take over by seeking help, grounding yourself, and taking small steps toward healing.

Breaking Through the Cloud: How to Find Your Way When Suicidal Thoughts Take Over

There are moments in life when it feels like the weight of the world is pressing down on you. The darkness, the heaviness, and the overwhelming sense of hopelessness seem impossible to shake. For some, this emotional cloud manifests as suicidal ideation—a frightening, isolating experience. When you’re trapped in that mental space, it can be hard to see a way out. But there is hope. No matter how dark things seem, there are steps you can take to break through the cloud and begin to heal.


What is Suicidal Ideation?


Suicidal ideation refers to thinking about or planning suicide. It can range from fleeting thoughts of escape to more detailed plans of harm. It’s crucial to remember that experiencing these thoughts does not mean you're weak, flawed, or broken. It means that you're in deep emotional pain and need support. It’s important to take these thoughts seriously and recognize that they don't define who you are.


Suicidal ideation is often triggered by feelings of hopelessness, overwhelming stress, grief, or mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, or PTSD. But the good news is, there are ways to cope and, ultimately, heal. It may not be easy, but with the right support and strategies, you can overcome these moments.


1. Reach Out for Help


When you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, one of the most important things you can do is reach out for support. It might feel hard to do, especially when you’re caught in a cloud of shame or numbness, but it’s crucial to talk to someone.


  • Call a crisis hotline. There are trained professionals who can listen without judgment and help guide you through the dark moment.

  • Speak to a therapist or counselor. A mental health professional can help you understand the underlying issues contributing to your suicidal thoughts and help you build healthier coping mechanisms.

  • Lean on friends or family. Sometimes, sharing your pain with a trusted person can help you feel less alone and more understood.


The act of speaking up—whether to a therapist, a friend, or a hotline—can be incredibly freeing. It helps externalize your pain and reminds you that you don’t have to carry it alone.


2. Create a Safety Plan


If you’re experiencing suicidal ideation, having a safety plan in place can be a lifeline. A safety plan is a list of strategies and actions that can help you regain control when the cloud of suicidal thoughts becomes overwhelming. Here are a few steps to include in your plan:


  • Recognize the warning signs: What are the thoughts, feelings, or situations that trigger these thoughts? Becoming aware of your triggers can help you intervene earlier.

  • Reach out to someone: Write down a list of people you trust and can reach out to when you’re feeling unsafe. Knowing who to call can help you avoid isolation.

  • Distract yourself: Identify activities or hobbies that help distract your mind when you’re struggling—whether that’s taking a walk, journaling, watching a funny show, or practicing deep breathing.

  • Seek professional help: Keep contact information for your therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist readily available.

  • Commit to not acting on the thoughts: Remind yourself that these thoughts are temporary, and while painful, they don’t have to define your actions.


3. Focus on Grounding Techniques


When you’re overwhelmed by dark thoughts, grounding techniques can help you return to the present moment and shift your focus away from the mental chaos. These techniques are designed to help you reconnect to the here and now, allowing you to break free from the thoughts that are pulling you deeper into darkness.


  • Deep breathing: Inhale slowly for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and exhale for a count of four. Repeat this several times to calm your nervous system.

  • 5-4-3-2-1 technique: Name five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. This sensory exercise can help distract you and bring you into the present.

  • Self-soothing: Wrap yourself in a cozy blanket, drink something warm, or listen to calming music. Physical sensations can help ground you when you’re feeling disconnected from yourself.


4. Challenge Negative Thoughts


Suicidal ideation often comes with a narrative of hopelessness—that there’s no way out and things will never get better. This narrative is powerful, but it’s not always true. When you’re in the midst of the cloud, it can be difficult to see anything else, but challenging those negative thoughts is key to breaking free.


  • Practice cognitive restructuring: Write down the negative thought (e.g., “I’m worthless,” or “I can’t do this”), then write a more balanced or hopeful thought (e.g., “I am struggling right now, but I am not defined by my pain” or “This moment is temporary, and I can find help”).

  • Remember past moments of strength: Reflect on times in your life when you’ve overcome challenges, even if they were smaller obstacles. Remind yourself that you have the ability to persevere.


5. Engage in Self-Compassion


Often, when we’re struggling with suicidal ideation, we’re also filled with feelings of shame or self-loathing. The emotional weight can feel even heavier when you don’t feel worthy of love, care, or help. But it’s important to remind yourself that you deserve compassion, especially from yourself.


  • Be gentle with yourself: When the thoughts get overwhelming, treat yourself as you would treat a loved one. Offer yourself kind words and acknowledge that what you're going through is incredibly tough.

  • Practice self-care: Simple acts of self-care, such as getting enough rest, eating nourishing food, or taking a warm bath, can help remind you that you deserve to take care of yourself.


6. Focus on Small, Manageable Steps


When you're in the depths of suicidal ideation, it can feel like everything is too overwhelming. Instead of focusing on everything you feel you need to fix or change, try focusing on small, manageable steps. This can help you feel a sense of agency and accomplishment.


  • Set tiny goals: Instead of thinking, “I need to fix everything,” focus on a small action that can make you feel a little better. This could be drinking water, walking outside for five minutes, or brushing your teeth.

  • Celebrate small wins: Every step you take toward healing, no matter how small, is worth celebrating.


7. Seek Professional Support Long-Term


While there are things you can do in the moment to help manage suicidal ideation, long-term healing is essential. Speaking to a therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist can help you explore the root causes of these thoughts and develop healthier coping mechanisms.


Therapy, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can help you understand the patterns of your thoughts and give you the tools to change them. Medication may also be an option for those who struggle with depression or other underlying mental health conditions.


The Path to Healing: One Step at a Time


Experiencing suicidal ideation is terrifying, but it’s important to remember that these thoughts don’t define you. They are part of a difficult moment, and while it may feel like you’re stuck in darkness, you can find your way out.


Remember, healing is a journey, and it starts with small, compassionate steps. Reach out for help, challenge negative thoughts, and be gentle with yourself. You are not alone in this, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through.


If you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a crisis hotline or a mental health professional. You deserve support, and you don’t have to face this alone.

There is hope. And there is a way through the cloud.


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