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The Night Owl’s Dilemma: How I Finally Made Peace with Sleep in College

Carlie Malott | Crisis Counselor | Guest Writer
Feb 27

We live in a world that celebrates hustle, productivity, and constant motion. But in the midst of our busy college lives, one crucial element often gets overlooked: sleep. We all know that rest is vital for physical health, but what about the emotional and mental benefits of a good night’s sleep? What if the key to better mental health lies not in more sleep, but in making peace with it?

The Night Owl’s Dilemma: How I Finally Made Peace with Sleep in College

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been a night owl. I’d stay up until 3 a.m. watching random videos or scrolling through TikTok until my eyes felt like sandpaper. Flash forward to my first year of college, I still had these bad patterns - staying up late and waking up early. It made me a total zombie.

I used to think that coffee runs and power naps would magically cover my sleep debt or that I was young enough that it didn’t matter, but the truth is, nothing replaces actual rest. Over time, my unhealthy sleep habits started to tank my mood, worsen my concentration, and wreck my motivation in my classes. I realized something had to change. What follows is a peek into my personal journey with college sleep (or lack thereof) and the small-but-mighty strategies I picked up along the way. Sleep might not sound flashy, but trust me, a good night’s rest can transform your mental health.

My Wake-Up Call (Literally)

I still remember the morning I rolled out of bed late for an exam. I threw on whatever clothes were closest to me and ran out of my building without breakfast. My test performance? Not exactly brilliant. I was anxious, scattered, and literally nodding off while reviewing my notes the night prior.

I was too exhausted to hang out with friends or join any clubs. My go-to solution was “sleep when you’re dead!” However this philosophy is totally backwards - I knew that if I didn’t address my sleep problem, I’d be burned out before I even made it to sophomore year.

Why Sleep Matters More Than You Think

We all get told that sleep is important - teachers, parents, etc. have been telling us that forever. But in college, the lack of structure can make healthy sleep routines feel like an afterthought. The reality? Sleep isn’t just a “nice to have”; it’s connected to every part of your well-being:

1. Mental Health Boost: Adequate sleep can reduce anxiety and stress levels. Therapists often recommend prioritizing rest because our brains process emotions and memories while we sleep.

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2. Academic Performance: Research shows that good sleep improves concentration, memory retention, and problem-solving skills. No, pulling an all-nighter won’t magically help you ace that final.

3. Physical Health: Chronic sleep deprivation can weaken your immune system. Plus, it messes with your hormones, making you more prone to mood swings and sluggishness.

Therapeutic Techniques That Helped Me Sleep

One thing I learned from chatting with our campus wellness counselor is that there are actual therapeutic methods you can use to get your sleep back on track. Here are a few that made the biggest difference for me:

● Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I): This is a specialized form of therapy that helps you recognize and change the thoughts and behaviors that keep you awake. I started journaling my pre-bedtime worries (about grades, friendships, the future) and tackled them in therapy sessions rather than letting them spin through my mind at 2 a.m.

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● Mindfulness and Relaxation Exercises: Guided meditations, breathing techniques, and even gentle yoga stretches can calm you before bed. I was skeptical at first, but focusing on my breath for even five minutes helped me drift off more easily.

● Progressive Muscle Relaxation: This is where you tense and then relax different muscle groups in your body, starting from your toes and working up to your head. It might sound silly, but it totally re-focused my racing mind on the present moment, making it easier to wind down.

Innovation in “Sleep Therapy”: Beyond the Usual Advice

Okay, so you’ve probably heard the basics - like turn off your phone 30 minutes before bed, or stop drinking energy drinks. But on campus, I discovered a few newer or less-talked-about ideas:

● Sleep Apps with Biofeedback: Some counseling centers on campus are starting to recommend apps that track heart rate and breathing patterns. They’ll ping you with real-time advice if your body shows signs of stress. If your heart rate spikes late at night, the app might suggest specific breathing exercises or soothing music.

● Light Therapy: This technique uses special lamps or light boxes to regulate your internal clock, especially during gloomy winter months. Some students use portable light therapy lamps to help them wake up naturally in the morning.

Sleep in the College Workplace: Balancing Jobs, Internships and Classes

If you’re juggling a part-time job or internship on top of your classes, you’ve probably discovered that standard 9-to-5 schedules don’t mesh well with late-night study sessions. One huge thing I learned is advocacy matters: if you’re a shift worker or have a boss who schedules you until midnight, talk to them about your course load. Sometimes they can tweak your hours so you’re not completely drained. Also, campus mental health services often have resources specifically for student workers - don’t be shy about asking for help!

My Ongoing Sleep Journey

I’d love to say I’m now a perfect sleeper who’s tucked in by 10 p.m. with chamomile tea in hand. Real talk: I still have late-night moments when a TV show binge or last-minute homework keeps me up. The difference is I’m aware of how crucial sleep is for my mental health, and I have tools - breathing exercises, a set bedtime, therapy check-ins - to help me bounce back when I slip up.

Most importantly, I’ve realized that sleep is not an optional pastime; it’s the foundation of everything else I do. When I’m well-rested, I’m a better friend, student, coworker, and all- round happier human.

Final Thoughts: Will You Give Sleep a Chance?

If you’re struggling with the late-night grind, know that you're not alone. Whether it’s discovering a new therapy app, talking to a counselor about CBT-I, or even starting your own mini “Sleep Club” with friends, there are endless ways to improve your relationship with rest. The question is: are you ready to put your mental health first and say goodnight to those all-nighters?

Because trust me - once you catch up on real, restorative sleep, you’ll wonder how you ever survived on energy drinks and coffee runs. Here’s to dreaming big while actually getting some sleep in the process!

Carlie Malott

Crisis Counselor | Guest Writer of Moody Melon Magazine

I’m a junior at Colorado College studying Psychology and Education. Passionate about mental health, I believe normalizing conversations about struggles fosters belonging and hope—values I strive to integrate into all my work.

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The Sleep-Stress Cycle: Are You Sleeping Your Way Into More Anxiety?

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
Dec 24, 2024

The sleep-stress cycle creates a vicious loop where stress keeps you awake at night, and the resulting lack of sleep only heightens your anxiety. Breaking free from the Sleep-Stress Cycle requires not only addressing your stressors but also prioritizing restorative sleep to rebuild your emotional resilience.

The Sleep-Stress Cycle: Are You Sleeping Your Way Into More Anxiety?

We all know how crucial sleep is for our health, but what if the very thing that’s supposed to restore us is also silently feeding the cycle of stress and anxiety? Many of us are familiar with those nights when our minds race with worries—whether it’s about work, relationships, or the future—and we lie awake, staring at the ceiling, desperate for rest. But what if those restless nights are actually making our stress worse?

The Vicious Cycle: Stress and Sleep—A Symbiotic Relationship

It’s a pattern many of us experience: stressful day = restless night. But it doesn’t stop there. The relationship between sleep and stress is a two-way street, and both can make the other worse.

When you're under stress, your body's fight-or-flight response is triggered, releasing a flood of hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. These chemicals are designed to keep you alert and focused, but when they linger in your system—often long after the stressor has passed—they can prevent your body from fully relaxing. This is why even the idea of getting into bed after a long day of anxiety can feel overwhelming. Your mind is too active to unwind, and your body is too tense to rest.

On the flip side, lack of sleep itself can make you more vulnerable to stress. Studies show that chronic sleep deprivation alters brain function, particularly in areas involved in emotional regulation. Essentially, the less sleep you get, the less resilient you are to stress, creating a feedback loop that can feel impossible to break.

Sleep Deprivation: The Silent Aggravator of Anxiety

It’s not just that you feel stressed when you don’t sleep; sleep deprivation has a tangible impact on your emotional and mental health. A well-rested brain has a better ability to process emotions, solve problems, and regulate mood. But a sleep-deprived brain? It’s much more likely to interpret normal challenges as insurmountable.

One of the key players here is the amygdala—the brain's emotional center. When you're sleep-deprived, the amygdala becomes hyperactive, making you more prone to reacting to stress with fear, frustration, or irritability. On top of that, the prefrontal cortex, responsible for decision-making and impulse control, becomes less effective. This means that when you’re tired, your ability to manage emotions and think rationally is severely compromised. It’s like being trapped in a mental fog where stress and anxiety are amplified, and sleep feels further out of reach.

The Stress Response That Won’t Let You Sleep

Even if you do manage to get into bed, stress doesn’t always let go. Racing thoughts, the constant replay of worries, and the inability to "switch off" mentally can keep you awake for hours. This hyperarousal state—when your body is physically and mentally primed for action—is your body’s natural response to stress. Unfortunately, in today’s world, this response is often triggered at night, when you’re supposed to be resting.

A study from the National Sleep Foundation reveals that nearly 70% of Americans suffer from sleep issues caused by stress. The inability to sleep, combined with the emotional weight of stress, creates a powerful, exhausting loop. The more stressed you are, the harder it becomes to sleep; the harder it is to sleep, the more stressed you become. It’s a cycle that can seem impossible to escape.

Breaking the Cycle: Strategies for Restful Sleep

If you’re caught in the sleep-stress loop, there are several strategies you can adopt to reclaim both your rest and your peace of mind.

Establish a bedtime routine: Much like children, adults thrive on routines. A regular, calming ritual before bed—whether it’s a warm bath, reading, or meditation—can signal to your body that it’s time to unwind. Creating a consistent sleep schedule will also help regulate your circadian rhythm, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep.
Limit screen time before bed: The blue light emitted by phones, tablets, and computers disrupts the production of melatonin, the hormone that helps regulate sleep. Aim to turn off screens at least an hour before bed to give your brain time to wind down naturally.
Manage your stress throughout the day: Practicing mindfulness or engaging in physical exercise during the day can help lower cortisol levels, making it easier to sleep at night. Techniques like deep breathing, yoga, or journaling can also help calm your mind and release pent-up stress before bed.
Create a restful sleep environment: A dark, quiet, and cool room is ideal for sleep. Consider blackout curtains, white noise machines, or using earplugs to block out distractions that could disrupt your rest.
Challenge anxious thoughts: If you find your mind racing with worries, try techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or progressive muscle relaxation to manage anxiety. Learning how to redirect your thoughts can help break the cycle of stress before it keeps you awake.

Conclusion: Are You Ready to Break the Sleep-Stress Cycle?

Sleep and stress are inextricably linked, and the way we manage one affects the other. Understanding the connection between these two elements can empower you to take proactive steps toward better sleep and less stress.

But here's the real question: Are you ready to break free from the cycle and reclaim your rest?

It's not just about getting more sleep—it’s about getting better sleep. It’s time to stop letting stress control your nights and start taking charge of your sleep habits. Your mind and body will thank you.

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