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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Jun 6

Burnout often shows up quietly—through exhaustion, irritability, or a sense of emotional numbness—long before we recognize its toll. Taking small, consistent steps to care for yourself daily can be the key to preventing burnout before it takes hold.

Burnout Doesn’t Come With a Warning Light—But Here’s How to Catch It Early

Let’s be honest: most of us don’t realize we’re on the edge of burnout until we’ve already slid off the cliff. One day you’re multitasking like a pro, and the next, you’re crying in the bathroom over a calendar notification or snapping at someone you love for forgetting to load the dishwasher.


Burnout doesn’t announce itself with sirens. It creeps in quietly, disguised as productivity, responsibility, and ambition. But there are signs—subtle, small, and absolutely worth noticing. Catching burnout early is not just about preventing a crash; it’s about preserving your energy, your relationships, and your joy.



Here are small, powerful things you can do—even with a busy schedule—to take care of yourself before burnout takes over:


1. Start Your Day With an Internal “Weather Report”


Before jumping into emails, meetings, or breakfast prep, check in with yourself like you’d check the weather. Ask:


  • What’s the emotional forecast today?

  • Where do I feel it in my body?

  • What’s one thing I can do to make today easier for myself?


This quick pause helps you notice fatigue, resentment, or anxiety before they escalate.


2. Redefine “Self-Care” as Micro-Acts of Maintenance


Forget the bubble baths and yoga retreats (unless that’s your thing). Real self-care is what you do in between your responsibilities:


  • Take 10 deep breaths before you open your laptop.

  • Drink a glass of water before your next call.

  • Step outside and feel actual sunlight on your skin—even for one minute.


Tiny acts add up when done with intention.


3. Use Transitions to Your Advantage


Going from work to home mode? Leaving a stressful conversation? Pause for 30 seconds and ask, What energy am I carrying right now, and do I want to bring it into this next moment?


It’s like wiping your mental shoes before stepping into the next room of your life.


4. Anchor Into Something That’s Just for You


No matter how busy your day is, find something—one thing—that is yours and yours alone. A 5-minute playlist that makes you feel alive. A silly meme account that gives you joy. A post-it note mantra on your mirror. This is less about escape and more about grounding.


5. Name Your Wins—Even the Tiny Ones


You answered that hard email. You drank more water. You didn’t lose your temper when you could’ve. You tried. That counts.


Noticing effort builds resilience. Burnout feeds on the feeling that nothing you do is enough.


6. Put a Boundary on the Invisible Work


You know the kind—worrying about everyone’s needs, double-checking what didn’t get done, mentally redoing a conversation. If you can't stop overthinking, give yourself a scheduled worry window. Set a timer. Let the mental noise run. Then move on.


You don’t have to carry it all, all the time.


7. End Your Day With Care, Not Collapse


Even if your day felt like a sprint, give yourself two minutes to close it intentionally:


  • What’s one thing I did well today?

  • What do I want to leave behind?

  • What does my body need tonight?


Treat yourself like someone worth winding down for—because you are.



Final Thought:You don’t need to wait until you're depleted to care for yourself. In fact, the best time to care for yourself is before you think you need to.


And here’s the eye-opening question to reflect on:


If you treated your energy like your most valuable asset, what would you do differently today?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Feb 19

Note: This content is fictional and created with the intention to inspire, uplift, and support you on your mental health journey. If it feels discouraging, please feel free to disregard it—your well-being is always the priority.

Breaking Free: Mindy's Brave Journey from Eating Disorder to Empowerment

Loneliness is something we all experience from time to time, but for people like Jodie, it’s not just an occasional feeling. It’s a constant, overwhelming force. Jodie, a 28-year-old woman, has struggled with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) for most of her adult life, and at the core of her experience is a profound sense of isolation.


For those unfamiliar with BPD, it’s a mental health condition marked by intense emotional experiences, difficulty managing relationships, and a fluctuating sense of self. These symptoms often make it hard to form and maintain stable relationships, which leads to feelings of abandonment, rejection, and loneliness. Jodie’s story is a poignant reflection of these struggles.



A Cycle of Hope and Heartbreak


When Jodie first meets someone, she feels an intense sense of connection—like they’re the answer to her deepest longing for intimacy and affection. But as soon as she starts to grow close to them, her fears of abandonment start to surface. She becomes overwhelmed by the thought of being left behind, of being unimportant. This fear triggers a flood of emotions—rage, sadness, desperation. And while her new relationship may start off strong, her intense emotions often drive others away, leaving Jodie feeling more isolated than ever.


It’s not that Jodie doesn’t want love or companionship—on the contrary, it’s all she craves. It’s the constant push and pull of intense feelings that keeps her in a cycle of connection and disconnection. She might push someone away because she fears they’ll abandon her, or she might cling to them too tightly because she fears being alone. Either way, her relationships often don’t survive the intense emotional waves, reinforcing the loneliness she so desperately wants to avoid.



The Shadow of Emotional Instability


Jodie’s loneliness isn’t just about a lack of social connection—it’s also about emotional instability. People with BPD often have intense emotional reactions that can seem disproportionate to the situation. Jodie’s emotional world is like a rollercoaster: one moment, she might feel on top of the world, but the next, she could spiral into deep sadness or anger. This emotional volatility often makes it difficult for others to understand her needs, leading to miscommunication and misunderstandings, further driving a wedge between her and potential support systems.


Her loneliness is often compounded by the feeling that no one truly understands her. Jodie finds herself caught between the desire to reach out for help and the fear that she’ll be judged or rejected. Her emotions are so intense that she worries others won’t be able to handle them. This leaves her feeling stuck, unable to bridge the gap between her internal experience and the external world.


The Road to Healing


While Jodie’s story is heart-wrenching, it’s also one of resilience. With the right treatment and support, it’s possible to manage BPD and find meaningful connections. Therapy, particularly dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), can help individuals with BPD develop skills to manage emotions, improve interpersonal relationships, and reduce the self-destructive behaviors that often accompany the disorder.


But healing is a slow process, and it takes time for people with BPD to learn how to trust themselves and others. For Jodie, it means gradually shifting from a place of fear and distrust to one of self-acceptance and openness. It also means learning that she doesn’t have to be perfect to deserve love or friendship—that imperfection is part of being human, and that vulnerability doesn’t always lead to rejection.


A Final Thought


Jodie’s story is just one example of how loneliness can take root in the lives of those with BPD. The journey from loneliness to connection isn’t easy, but it’s possible with the right help. As we continue to raise awareness about mental health, we must remember that the loneliness people experience—whether from BPD or another mental health condition—is not just an individual experience. It’s a collective issue, one that requires empathy, understanding, and support from all of us.


Are we willing to see the pain behind the loneliness, or will we continue to leave those who need us the most in the shadows?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Jan 17

Discover the 15-Minute secret to beating stress—a simple yet powerful way to recharge and regain focus, even in the busiest of helping professions. With just 15 minutes a day, you can transform your stress levels and create lasting calm amidst the chaos.

The 15-Minute Secret to Beating Stress in Helping Professions

The reality of working in a helping profession—whether as a teacher, therapist, nurse, social worker, or caregiver—is that you’re constantly giving. Your job revolves around other people’s needs: offering support, guidance, comfort, and understanding. But here's the catch—if you're not careful, the emotional and physical toll of helping others can leave you feeling depleted, burned out, and overwhelmed.


While it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, there's one thing that often gets neglected in the rush: you. Taking care of yourself isn't a luxury—it’s a necessity. And here's the good news: You don’t need hours of free time to recharge. In fact, carving out just 15 minutes a day for self-care can be the game changer you’ve been looking for.


So how can you incorporate quick yet effective self-care into your busy helping profession lifestyle? Let’s explore a few strategies that take only 15 minutes but can dramatically reduce stress, boost your mood, and replenish your energy.


1. The Power of Breath: A 5-Minute Mindful Breathing Break


When the weight of the world feels on your shoulders, taking a moment to breathe deeply can work wonders. Mindful breathing helps activate your body’s relaxation response, reducing cortisol (the stress hormone) and calming the nervous system.


How it works: Find a quiet spot, close your eyes, and take a slow, deep breath in for a count of four. Hold for four counts, and then exhale slowly for another count of four. Repeat for five minutes. Focus solely on your breath—if your mind drifts, gently guide it back to the inhale and exhale.


Why it’s effective: This simple practice takes almost no effort but can have immediate effects on stress reduction. A few minutes of mindful breathing can improve focus, increase emotional regulation, and help you feel more grounded, even in the midst of chaos.


2. Body Scan Meditation: Relax and Reset in 10 Minutes


Stress often manifests in our bodies—tight shoulders, clenched jaws, or a stiff neck. The body scan technique helps you identify and release physical tension by moving your awareness through each part of your body.


How it works: Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Start with your toes and slowly bring your attention upward, mentally scanning each part of your body for tension. As you focus on each area, consciously release the tension with each exhale. Take your time with each muscle group, from your feet all the way up to your head.


Why it’s effective: The body scan method not only promotes relaxation but also brings awareness to how stress affects your physical state. It helps you become more in tune with your body’s signals, allowing you to release tension before it becomes a larger problem.


3. Quick Power Nap: Recharge Your Batteries in 10-15 Minutes


Helping professionals often find themselves running on empty, especially when they’re juggling multiple responsibilities. One of the best ways to restore your energy quickly is with a power nap.


How it works: Find a quiet place to rest. Set an alarm for 10-15 minutes (just enough to enter the light sleep phase). Close your eyes, focus on your breath, and allow your body to relax deeply without worrying about falling asleep.


Why it’s effective: Studies show that short naps can improve alertness, memory, and mood. A quick 10-minute nap can be like hitting a mental reset button, helping you feel more energized and refreshed for the rest of your day.


4. Gratitude Journaling: Shift Your Focus in 5 Minutes


When you're in a helping profession, it’s easy to become absorbed in the needs of others and forget to acknowledge the positives in your own life. Gratitude journaling is a simple practice that can shift your mindset, reduce stress, and foster a sense of well-being.


How it works: Take five minutes each day to write down three things you’re grateful for. They don’t have to be big things—maybe it’s the warmth of your morning coffee, a kind message from a colleague, or the joy of watching a sunset.


Why it’s effective: Research has shown that practicing gratitude helps reduce stress, enhance happiness, and improve overall mental health. By taking time to recognize what’s good in your life, you can shift your perspective away from stress and burnout.


5. A Quick Walk: Reconnect with Yourself and Nature


Sometimes, all you need is a change of scenery to reset your mind. A quick walk outside, even if it’s just around the block or a few laps in a nearby park, can provide a much-needed break from the intensity of helping others.


How it works: Put on your shoes, step outside, and begin walking at a comfortable pace. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Let the physical movement help release tension and give your mind a break from the workday.


Why it’s effective: Walking boosts mood, lowers stress, and increases creativity. Exposure to nature has also been shown to reduce mental fatigue and improve concentration. Even a short walk can help you return to your tasks feeling clearer and more focused.


6. Creative Outlet: 15 Minutes of Art, Writing, or Music


When you’re constantly caring for others, it can be difficult to find the time or energy to nurture your own creative side. But expressing yourself through art, journaling, or music, even for just 15 minutes, can help release pent-up emotions and improve your mental health.


How it works: Dedicate 15 minutes to a creative activity you enjoy—whether it’s sketching, writing in a journal, playing an instrument, or even coloring. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s self-expression.


Why it’s effective: Creative activities help activate the brain’s reward centers, reduce stress, and foster a sense of accomplishment. Taking a short break to engage in something you enjoy can provide a sense of balance and relaxation in your hectic day.


The Bottom Line: You Deserve These 15 Minutes


Helping others is incredibly rewarding, but it can also be draining. Professors, nurses, social workers, and caregivers are often the first to put their own needs on the back burner. However, if you’re constantly running on empty, you risk burning out and becoming less effective in your role.


The truth is, you don’t need hours of self-care each day to stay mentally healthy. Just 15 minutes a day can make all the difference in reducing stress, improving your mood, and preventing burnout.


So, ask yourself: Can you really afford not to take 15 minutes for your own well-being? Your mind, body, and the people you help will thank you for it.


Quick Self-Care Checklist:

  • 5 minutes of mindful breathing

  • 10 minutes of body scan meditation

  • 10-15 minute power nap

  • 5 minutes of gratitude journaling

  • A 15-minute walk in nature

  • 15 minutes of creative expression


Take a moment. Breathe. Care for yourself. You deserve it.


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