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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Dec 17, 2024

Teens can turn negative feedback into a source of inspiration by using it to fuel creative projects, like art, writing, or video content that empowers them. Additionally, setting healthy boundaries on social media, like taking regular digital detoxes, helps teens protect their mental well-being and regain perspective after facing criticism.

From Criticism to Confidence: Creative Ways Teens Can Handle Negative Feedback on Social Media

In today’s digital age, social media is an integral part of teen life, serving as both a space for connection and self-expression. However, it’s also a platform where criticism—both constructive and harsh—can hit hard. Whether it's a comment on a TikTok video, an Instagram post, or a tweet, negative feedback can easily lead to self-doubt and anxiety. So how can teens handle these critiques in a way that fosters resilience rather than reinforcing insecurity? And how can parents step in to offer the support their teens need during these sensitive moments?


1. Turn Criticism into Constructive Reflection


One of the first steps in handling negative feedback is teaching teens to separate themselves from the criticism. In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to internalize comments as personal attacks. But it’s important to remind teens that criticism is often about a specific post or action rather than about who they are as a person. Encouraging teens to step back, evaluate the feedback objectively, and ask themselves, “Is this criticism valid? Is there something I can learn from it?” helps transform a potentially hurtful moment into an opportunity for growth.


2. Respond Creatively: Use Feedback to Fuel Artistry


Rather than allowing negative comments to affect their confidence, teens can channel that energy into their creative outlets. For example, teens who share videos, art, or writing can use negative feedback as fuel for their next creation. Whether it’s improving a skill based on the comment or turning the feedback into inspiration for a new, empowering project, creative teens can spin negativity into something uniquely their own. Parents can encourage their teens to start a journal or vlog where they can explore their feelings and take charge of their own narrative.


3. Practice Digital Detoxes


Sometimes, the best way to deal with negative feedback is to take a break from the very source of it. Encourage teens to practice regular digital detoxes—whether it’s a few hours, a full day, or even a weekend off social media. This time away from the noise gives teens the opportunity to reflect on their worth outside of likes, shares, and comments. A break from the constant buzz allows them to reconnect with real-world joys and achievements without feeling tethered to the approval of others.


4. Build a Support Network of Trusted Peers


Teens should surround themselves with a positive and supportive group of friends who value them for who they are, not just what they post. Encourage teens to identify a group of friends they can turn to when they’re feeling down about a post or a comment. These friends can help validate their feelings, provide encouragement, and remind them of their self-worth. It’s also helpful to create a space where friends can give each other constructive feedback that uplifts, rather than brings down.


5. Respond with Empathy: Teach Teens to Approach Haters with Understanding


It’s easy to respond to negativity with anger or defensiveness, but teaching teens to respond with empathy can defuse a potentially toxic situation. Parents can encourage teens to ask themselves why someone might leave a negative comment in the first place. Often, trolls are projecting their own insecurities or seeking attention. By responding with understanding rather than confrontation, teens can rise above the negativity and protect their peace.


6. Establish Boundaries with Social Media


In a world where teens are constantly exposed to others’ lives online, it’s essential to teach them about setting healthy boundaries. Parents can help by having open conversations about what constitutes healthy social media use, such as limiting the amount of time spent on apps or choosing to follow only positive accounts. Encouraging teens to unfollow accounts that don’t make them feel good about themselves can drastically reduce exposure to negativity.


7. Create a Positive, Open Dialogue with Parents


For parents, the key to supporting sensitive teens through their social media experiences is communication. Rather than stepping in too quickly with judgment or criticism, parents should first listen. Encourage your teen to talk about how certain comments or feedback made them feel. Let them know you understand how difficult it can be to navigate the digital world and that their feelings are valid. Reinforce that their worth isn’t defined by online comments, but by who they are as a person.


Parents can also lead by example. If you’ve ever experienced negative feedback online, share your experiences with your teen, and talk about how you handled it. This builds trust and shows teens that even adults have to deal with criticism—and that it’s okay to feel upset by it, as long as they know how to process and move forward.


8. Teach Self-Compassion and Resilience


The ability to handle criticism is deeply connected to self-compassion and emotional resilience. Encourage teens to practice self-kindness and avoid negative self-talk when they encounter criticism. Help them realize that everyone receives criticism at some point, and it doesn’t diminish their worth. Just like learning any new skill, handling negativity online takes time and practice. With the right tools and mindset, teens can bounce back stronger after each encounter.


The Parent’s Role: Becoming a Trusted Ally


Parents play a crucial role in how teens process and respond to negative feedback on social media. It's not just about monitoring their online activities, but about forming a bond of trust where teens feel comfortable sharing their experiences. When parents take a nonjudgmental approach and listen first, it opens the door for honest, empathetic conversations. Rather than telling teens how to feel or what to do, parents can ask reflective questions that help their teens find their own solutions.


By working together, parents and teens can create a safe space where vulnerability is met with understanding, and where the ability to handle negative feedback becomes a shared goal.


Eye-Opening Question for Readers:

How can we, as a society, help empower the next generation to handle negative feedback online without compromising their self-worth and mental health?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Dec 17, 2024

Note: This content is fictional and created with the intention to inspire, uplift, and support you on your mental health journey. If it feels discouraging, please feel free to disregard it—your well-being is always the priority.

From Panic to Peace: Brittany’s Journey of Overcoming Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Brittany had always been the type of person who excelled at everything she did. From her career to her personal life, she prided herself on being organized, on top of things, and in control. But beneath the surface, a constant storm raged in her mind.


It started subtly—a tightness in her chest when deadlines loomed or a flutter of nerves before social gatherings. Over time, these occasional moments of discomfort grew into overwhelming feelings of dread and worry. Every decision became an internal battle, from what to eat for lunch to whether or not she was making the right choices in life. The once minor irritations evolved into a constant state of fear and anxiety that took over every aspect of her existence.


The Awakening


Brittany didn’t always know what was happening to her. She assumed that her restlessness and constant worry were just a part of her personality—until one day, while sitting at her desk, she felt the all-too-familiar wave of dizziness and rapid heartbeat. It wasn’t just a stressful day; it was a panic attack. She couldn’t breathe, her hands trembled, and her thoughts spiraled out of control. That was when she realized—something had to change.


For months, Brittany tried to hide her anxiety, convincing herself that it would pass or that she simply needed to “toughen up.” But the panic attacks became more frequent, and the worry escalated. She began avoiding situations she once enjoyed—social gatherings, work functions, even phone calls with friends. Anxiety, which once seemed like an occasional visitor, had become a constant companion.


Seeking Help


The turning point came when Brittany realized that she couldn’t continue living this way. She made an appointment with a therapist who specialized in anxiety disorders. During her first session, she was surprised by how much relief she felt simply by talking about her experiences. Brittany learned that she wasn’t alone in her struggles—that what she had been experiencing was called Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), a condition that affects millions of people worldwide.


With her therapist's guidance, Brittany began to explore the root causes of her anxiety. She discovered that her need for control, rooted in childhood experiences, had contributed to her heightened worry. The more Brittany uncovered about her triggers and thought patterns, the more she understood how GAD had shaped her life without her even realizing it.


The Road to Recovery


Recovery wasn’t quick or easy. Brittany’s first few months in therapy were filled with difficult conversations and moments of self-doubt. She had to learn to challenge her automatic negative thoughts and replace them with more balanced, rational ones. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) became her primary tool in this battle. She also embraced mindfulness practices, which helped her become more aware of her thoughts and feelings without judgment.


There were setbacks along the way—days when her anxiety flared up, and she questioned whether things would ever improve. But with each passing week, Brittany began to feel stronger. She started taking small steps back into the world: attending social events, speaking up at work meetings, and allowing herself to rest without the constant hum of worry in her mind.


Alongside therapy, Brittany also made lifestyle changes that supported her recovery. She incorporated regular exercise, meditation, and a more balanced diet into her routine. These habits, though small, made a huge difference in how she managed stress and maintained a sense of calm.


One of the most significant breakthroughs came when Brittany learned to embrace uncertainty. As a person who had always sought control, she found peace in letting go of the need to have everything figured out. She realized that the unpredictability of life was a part of the human experience—and that she didn’t need to control every outcome in order to feel safe.


A New Outlook


Today, Brittany is no longer defined by her anxiety. While she still has moments of worry—an occasional flutter of nerves or a tense moment—she now has the tools to manage them effectively. More importantly, she no longer feels like a prisoner of her own mind.

In reflecting on her journey, Brittany shares this powerful message with others who may be struggling with anxiety: "Recovery is possible, and it starts with taking that first step toward help. You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need to be willing to change."


Her journey of recovery from GAD has not only transformed her own life, but it has also empowered her to be more open and supportive of others who may be struggling in silence. She now speaks out about mental health in her community and encourages people to seek help without shame.


A Powerful Question to Ponder


As you reflect on Brittany’s journey, consider this: What if we all gave ourselves permission to acknowledge our struggles and ask for help? How different could our lives be if we embraced vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness?


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  • Writer: Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
    Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
  • Dec 16, 2024

Supporting an elderly parent who grieves requires patience, empathy, and a willingness to create a safe space for their emotions, allowing them to express their sorrow without judgment. By offering both emotional and practical support, we can help ease their loneliness and provide comfort during a time of profound loss.

Navigating the Holidays: Supporting an Elderly Parent Who Grieves Alone

The holiday season, often associated with joy, warmth, and togetherness, can be a challenging time for many, especially for elderly parents living alone. For them, the holidays can amplify feelings of loneliness, loss, and grief, especially if they are coping with the death of a spouse, the absence of children nearby, or simply the realities of aging.


As adult children, we often want to create festive experiences for our parents, but it's easy to overlook the complexities of their emotional and mental health needs during this time. Understanding the delicate balance between celebrating and supporting is key to offering the care and compassion they need.


The Silent Struggle of Grieving Alone


For older adults, grief often manifests in ways that aren’t immediately obvious. It can show up as irritability, isolation, or a withdrawal from social interactions. They may feel overwhelmed by memories of past holidays or mourn the absence of loved ones who once filled their home with laughter. The emotional weight of missing a spouse or a close friend is compounded by the physical challenges that come with aging. Many elderly people don’t always verbalize their grief, either out of a sense of pride, or because they simply don’t want to burden others.


When these feelings are left unaddressed, they can lead to a deeper sense of isolation, especially during a time that’s supposed to be about connection. This emotional strain can affect their overall well-being, including their mental and physical health. As adult children, we may find it difficult to know how to offer support without making the situation feel more uncomfortable for them.


How to Help: A Guiding Hand Through the Holidays


  1. Acknowledge Their GriefOne of the most important things we can do as children of aging parents is to acknowledge their grief. Many elderly parents may feel like they’re expected to just “get over it” or keep up appearances during the holidays. Let them know that it’s okay to grieve and that their feelings are valid, no matter how long it has been since their loss. This can be as simple as starting a conversation: “I know this time of year might be especially hard for you, and I want you to know I’m here for you.”


  2. Create a Routine TogetherRoutine can offer comfort, especially for those struggling with loss. During the holidays, it can be easy to get swept up in all the seasonal festivities, but keeping some semblance of regularity can be grounding for an elderly parent. Cook a meal together, go for a walk, or enjoy quiet moments reading or watching a favorite TV show. These activities remind them that they’re not alone, and they provide an opportunity for connection without the need for forced celebration.


  3. Offer Emotional Support, Not Just Practical HelpWhile it's essential to assist with practical tasks like shopping or handling medical appointments, emotional support can be just as important. Spend time simply talking with your parent about their feelings, reminisce about holidays past, or share stories that bring comfort. Sometimes, just being present is the best gift you can give. It might not be about “fixing” their grief, but instead allowing them the space to express it without judgment or expectation.


  4. Plan Low-Key Holiday CelebrationsBig holiday gatherings can be overwhelming for elderly parents, especially if they are grieving. If you want to celebrate, consider a more intimate and low-key approach. Instead of throwing a large family gathering, plan a quiet dinner, or a simple outing to a place they enjoy. You might also consider starting a new tradition that honors their loved ones. A candlelight remembrance or a moment of silence can help them feel seen and loved while also honoring their grief.


  5. Check In RegularlyEven if your parent is used to being independent, regular check-ins are vital. A quick phone call, a text, or a video chat can make all the difference. Sometimes, elderly individuals hesitate to reach out for help, so don’t wait for them to ask. Your consistent presence can serve as a reminder that they are not alone, even if you can’t be physically present all the time.


  6. Encourage Connection with OthersEncourage your parent to engage with community or social groups, whether in person or virtually. Many seniors are involved in local organizations, support groups, or even online forums where they can connect with others who understand their feelings of loss. If they seem hesitant, offer to help them find and participate in these activities, even if it’s just once or twice during the season.


The Gift of Presence


The holidays may never feel the same after a significant loss, and that’s okay. It’s important to remember that there’s no “right” way to grieve, and your parent may not express their sorrow in ways you expect. By offering your support, acknowledging their grief, and creating a comforting presence during this time, you give them the gift of compassion, understanding, and the reminder that they are loved.


After all, the holiday season is about connection—whether that’s through shared laughter, quiet moments of reflection, or simply being there for one another. Sometimes, the most meaningful gift we can offer is our presence.


So this holiday season, how can you ensure that your parent feels seen, heard, and supported, even through their grief? Share your comment below.


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