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I Lost My Job and Found Myself: A Story of Growth After Unemployment

Rowena Poole | Mental Health Advocate | Guest Writer
Jul 18

It took me seven months after college graduation to land my first full-time job. I majored in animation—an extremely competitive field. Having a BA or BFA can make it excruciatingly difficult to find work. In my senior year of college, all the animation majors got to show off their senior film at the local movie theater. If it was good enough. The bar seemed very low. But for some reason, I didn’t make the cut. But then, to my knowledge, nobody in my graduating class had a job so quickly. Landing that job, even after seven months, felt like it was finally my time to shine.

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It was a really boring job. I worked under contract, cutting up cardboard boxes and assembling mockup versions of toys for eight hours every day. I kept my head down, did what I was told, and displayed a very eager-to-learn version of myself. The job was not fulfilling. But at least I was employed, and at least I could say I had a real full-time job with hopes of finally moving out.

For some reason, they decided not to hire me full-time when the contract ended. They didn’t even tell me. I found out myself when my position was posted on Indeed. All this time, I wasn’t sure which would be better: to continue making money in a job I don’t enjoy during a time when the job market is terrible, or to have an opening and hope I’d have luck finding a job that better fits me. Turns out I didn’t get to choose. I felt a mix of relief, fear, and anger. How could they go behind my back like that? Being a temporary employee doesn’t mean I should be flung aside. Nothing was ever said to me about a lack of performance. When I confronted them, they briefly mentioned my leadership skills could use some work. I was working as an assistant, doing the things they didn’t have time to do themselves. What exactly was I supposed to lead? They had a lot of nerve saying that to me, when they never demonstrated leadership skills to me. A true leader would have led me. I was their golden opportunity to show off their leadership skills. But instead of leading me in whatever I lacked, they cut me off like a wart.

It didn’t quite hit me until I noticed the two men I worked with exit the room with some notebooks. It was clear they were off to interview someone while I was still working there. I called my mom during working hours in tears. It was Tuesday, and I decided to quit at the end of the week, two weeks before my contract would end. I would rather have those two weeks to look for work than to stay at a job where I didn’t like how I was treated. They would whisper in front of me, excluding me from necessary company conversations, and not even telling me that they did not want to continue with my application, or why. I still don’t know why. But I’ve decided that I don’t care. The reason probably has more to do with them than it does with me.

Sitting in the Discomfort

The devastation sat with me for a long time. I found out they were not going to extend my contract Memorial Day Weekend in 2024, while I was enjoying a weekend away in New York. I confronted them on the Tuesday we were back. When I heard their answer, I couldn’t even tell my parents for a few days. I stayed working for several more weeks, not exactly sure how to feel. It was bittersweet, and I was okay with that. I started looking and interviewing at a few places, nothing full-time, but just a buffer job that would keep me afloat until I could find something a bit more related to my field. Except it was tough to interview because I was still working under contract, which meant I couldn’t take a few hours off work to meet any potential employers. I did not see how truly stuck I was, blind to the sticky peanut butter surrounding me, originating from this job. I trudged forward, forcing myself to walk through the knee—deep, thick, invisible, peanut butter. I told myself it would be over soon, so I continued to allow myself to get smothered in more peanut butter.

The phone call I had with my mom almost one month later helped me realize how bad the situation was for me. I was trapped in a place that I couldn’t interview elsewhere, in a place where I had been shafted. I could finally see the peanut butter everywhere. It was probably up to my waist at that point. I had to do something about it, and I had to start taking care of myself. It was not an easy decision to quit early, but my mental health had to come first. The peanut butter had to go. I came back the next day with a resignation notice. All that was asked was if I had another opportunity lined up for me. I was honest. I said no. That was that. Had they asked for honest feedback, I would have given it to them. But they didn’t, and that’s on them for not wanting to improve.

In the few weeks that followed, I felt a little bit better that I was no longer working at that place. The peanut butter was swallowed with them. But as time continued to pass with no offers, I felt panic begin to set in. I was too far into the working world to go back to retail, but I was not yet experienced enough to do almost anything else. The relief was short-lived, and I was back to feeling like I was not good enough. The job was not just a way for me to make money. It felt like my chance to show that I could be good enough. But I lost it, just as I had not been accepted to show my senior film. I was moving backwards in life. What was I doing wrong?

To fill my time, I continued to hustle my art. I animate for myself a little bit, I operate a very small Etsy shop, and I write for Moody Melon. At a very low point in this situation, I honestly asked a very close and important person in my life what I do well that nobody else does. The answer really helped me. It may have been just to make me feel better, but I took it very seriously. I am very good at making animal ceramic mugs. All I needed to hear was one thing that I knew I could do.

Reframing the Loss

This was not something I could look at in a new way on my own. I spoke to my therapist about it a lot. While I was in work, she mentioned that I didn't seem happy there. I knew that I wasn’t exactly joyous, but the mindset of having a job during these hard times was enough to convince myself it wasn’t so bad.

Once I was out of work, she pointed out that I had been saying how much I wanted to have more time to focus on my art. I had wanted to expand my portfolio, make more things to sell at art markets, and also use the extra time to find my true potential. Now is the time when I can afford to do all that. I haven’t moved out yet, so I have no rent to pay. I can quite literally afford to have time now. One thing I learned is that it’s very difficult to both make money and have time. Right now, my life is focused on having the time I wanted.

Of course, I needed something to keep me afloat to pay for gas, food, and the opportunity to do things with friends that may cost money. I finally put my nail technician license to use and landed a part-time job at a nail salon. The paychecks are not even half of what I used to make, but they are enough to fill my tank and pay for occasional goodies such as art supplies. Things are not moving forward very quickly in the sense of saving up for moving out, but I don’t feel that I am moving backward anymore. I am simply staying at a point that is necessary in order for me to move forward in other aspects of my life. While I still occasionally get anxious about money, I remind myself that this time is what I have wanted for a long time. This exact point in my life is temporary. This, too, shall pass with the goal of moving forward.

Finding the Opportunity

The first thing I started doing semi-regularly after losing my job was going to the gym. I had wanted to find a good time that worked for me when the gym wasn’t too crowded. Late mornings, when I would typically be at work, were a good time to do that. I could finally animate again, as I was not drained from a long day of boring work. I could make more things for my Etsy shop. I had more time to look for jobs and write better cover letters. Of course, the market is still terrible, and I’ve had no luck, but I felt better about the jobs I did apply for. I started writing more, reworking my novel I’ve been writing since middle school. I finally got a place where I can send it to literary agents—for the second time. Again, a very difficult market, but I feel good about the place the book is at now. Most importantly, I have enough time to go to the ceramic studio.

When I was told that I make ceramic animal mugs very well, that stuck with me. I was still at work at the time, but I had looked online for affordable ceramic studio memberships. Everything in Boston is ridiculously expensive, but there was one place in Lowell that was fairly priced. It was thirty minutes away from North Andover, where I worked, and I thought I could make the balance work. Looking back now that I no longer have that job, I realize it’s a lot more time to dedicate to ceramics than I would have had time for while working full time. I did not join the studio membership right away, as I wanted to make sure I was going to get hired after my contract ended. It turns out that not being hired was exactly what I needed to go forth with the studio membership.

As I continue to create this summer, I have a goal of working part-time while focusing most of my time and energy on exploring paths and finding my potential. I want to move from Etsy to my own online store. I want to make as many tangible pieces as possible to sell at art fairs this fall. I want to submit to as many literary agents as possible. I hope to have something accomplished with a true definition of myself by the fall. I have time now. I’m going to use it to really hustle and focus on myself.

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A Mindset That Applies to More Than Just Jobs

I know that my story is a very personal and specific one. I’d really like to open up about how the right mindset can help you overcome anything. Whether you’re like me and you’ve lost a job, or you’re struggling with something else, such as a relationship, a move, or regrets, just know that your thinking can help you move forward. What’s a new light or angle you haven’t considered looking at the problem in? You lost something, but what can you gain from this? Perhaps it’s a lesson that makes you stronger, wiser, or better. Maybe it’s more time. The one thing we can never get back. Maybe it’s a new and unexpected relationship.

This is not to say that whatever struggles you may have are not there. But looking at something positive, having good people who have your back, can help you see the other side of the situation. It’s the other side that we need to get to, and it’s important that it’s as accessible as possible. The other side may not be what you expect either. My thoughts were that I was just going to find another job, with little gigs in between. But I was able to look at the opportunity that was right in front of me: time. Things aren’t moving as quickly forward as I hoped, but I would gladly sacrifice that for the time I now see that I have.

From Fear to Freedom

This is not all said and done. Moving through life, whether you’re going forward quickly or staying stationary to figure things out, there are plenty of ups and downs. I try to prepare myself and keep an open mind about what may happen. However, things don’t happen when you wait. I keep my mind open, but I actively explore my options. I actively apply to jobs, actively create, and actively research. I also try to now recognize when I’m walking through peanut butter.

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Goals are excellent to have, but it is incredibly freeing when you have multiple goals in several different fields of life. I have a goal of taking the summer to explore, and a goal of finding something that clicks by the fall. What that could be, is anything. Maybe I will extend my hours at the nail salon, maybe I will still work part-time, but I will be much more comfortable having an online store. Maybe my book will finally get accepted by an agent. Who knows, maybe I will still be figuring things out. That’s okay. It’s okay to forgive yourself for not meeting your goals right away. They will always be there, waiting for you when you’re ready.

Doors close all the time—and we don’t often get a say in which ones do. But it’s important to pause and reflect, look at your options. There may be a door right in front of you, which would be the obvious one. But look left and right, at the off-center doors. They might take you down a different path, and that path might be better. You get to choose which door you open next. If you’re stuck in peanut butter and feeling scared, you are not alone, just as I am not alone. Clean up that peanut butter! An ending can be hard, sticky, and scary, but the next beginning might be something better.

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Rowena Poole

Mental Health Advocate | Guest Writer of Moody Melon Magazine

I am a multimedia storyteller with a passion for supporting mental well-being. With a background in animation and creative writing, I use my skills to share meaningful messages that promote understanding and positive change.

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When Change Becomes Chaos: How to Survive a Toxic Workplace After a Company Buyout

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
Mar 6

To survive a toxic workplace, it’s essential to set clear boundaries and prioritize your mental well-being. By focusing on self-care and building a supportive network, you can navigate the challenges and protect yourself from the negative impact of a harmful environment.

When Change Becomes Chaos: How to Survive a Toxic Workplace After a Company Buyout

When a company is bought out, employees often face an unpredictable whirlwind of changes. New management, altered company values, and shifting goals can bring stress, uncertainty, and a toxic work environment. While change can be an opportunity for growth, it can also cause significant strain on mental health. The transition period can be filled with confusion, miscommunication, and, in some cases, workplace toxicity that can leave employees feeling overwhelmed and trapped.

In this article, we’ll explore how to navigate the stress of a company buyout and survive the challenges of new management. Whether you're trying to stay afloat amidst changes or seeking ways to cope with a toxic work culture, these tips will help you protect your mental well-being.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of a Company Buyout

When your company is acquired, it’s natural to experience a range of emotions. You may feel anxiety over job security, sadness over the loss of familiar colleagues, or frustration with new leadership styles. Many employees also face the added pressure of increased workloads, unclear expectations, and shifts in company culture. The uncertainty and chaos that accompany a buyout can feel like a constant mental tug-of-war, leaving you mentally exhausted.

But the stress doesn't end there. Often, when a new management team steps in, they bring with them a fresh set of policies or performance goals that may clash with your previous experience. If these goals are unrealistic or the leadership is indifferent to employee concerns, the work environment can quickly become toxic.

Recognizing Toxicity in the Workplace

Not all challenges during a company transition are toxic, but it’s important to recognize the warning signs that things are spiraling into an unhealthy environment. Here are some key indicators of a toxic workplace:

Constant Uncertainty: Frequent changes in policies, roles, and job expectations with little explanation can leave employees feeling unstable and stressed.
Lack of Communication: When management fails to communicate effectively or transparently, it can lead to confusion, frustration, and feelings of isolation.
Blame Culture: A shift toward a blame-oriented culture—where employees are criticized for any mistakes without support or solutions—can create a hostile environment.
Decreased Morale: If your coworkers are disengaged, unmotivated, or outright hostile, it’s likely that the overall work culture has taken a hit due to poor leadership and management styles.
Increased Micromanagement: A shift from empowerment to micromanagement can severely diminish an employee’s sense of autonomy and contribute to burnout.

Strategies to Survive and Thrive in a Toxic Work Environment

While you can’t always control the management or changes brought about by a company acquisition, there are ways to protect your mental health and thrive, even in a toxic work environment.

Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care: Maintaining your physical and mental well-being is crucial during times of stress. Set clear boundaries between work and personal time, and make time for self-care activities that recharge you. Whether it's taking regular breaks during the day, exercising, meditating, or spending time with loved ones, self-care is essential in maintaining your resilience.
Stay Grounded in Your Values: In the face of uncertainty, it’s easy to lose sight of your personal values and priorities. Take time to reflect on what matters most to you—whether it’s work-life balance, career growth, or mental health—and make decisions based on those values. Don’t compromise your well-being for a job that no longer aligns with your personal goals.
Create a Support System: It’s easy to feel isolated when navigating a toxic work culture, but you’re not alone. Building a network of supportive colleagues, friends, or mentors can offer much-needed perspective and encouragement. Share your challenges, vent when necessary, and lean on your support system to stay strong during tough times.
Focus on What You Can Control: While you can’t control how management runs the company, you can control your attitude, work ethic, and response to challenges. Focus on doing your job to the best of your ability, taking pride in your accomplishments, and staying true to your professional standards. Empower yourself by concentrating on aspects of your work that give you a sense of accomplishment and purpose.
Practice Mindfulness and Stress-Reduction Techniques: Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or journaling, can help you manage anxiety and stay focused in the present moment. These tools can help you detach from negative emotions and cope with workplace stress in a healthier way. It’s also helpful to step away from stressful situations when you need to regain your composure.
Know When to Move On: If the environment becomes too toxic or if the management is unwilling to address the issues that are affecting your well-being, it may be time to consider other options. This could involve searching for another role within the company, exploring other job opportunities, or even taking a career break to reset and evaluate your next steps. No job is worth sacrificing your health and happiness.

Conclusion: Embracing Change and Protecting Your Peace

A company buyout often comes with uncertainty and challenges, but it can also provide a new opportunity for personal and professional growth. Surviving the stress of new management and a toxic workplace environment requires resilience, self-care, and a commitment to your values. While navigating these tough changes may not be easy, remember that your well-being should always come first.

As you face the challenges of this transition, ask yourself: How much are you willing to sacrifice for a job, and at what point do you decide it’s time to prioritize your mental health over the demands of a toxic workplace?