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The Silence Between the Cracks: What Are We Still Missing About Suicide?

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
Sep 2

Suicide awareness is not just about recognizing the signs—it's about creating a culture where people feel safe enough to be seen, heard, and helped. Increasing suicide awareness means challenging silence, breaking stigma, and reminding others that their lives have value even when they can’t see it themselves.

The Silence Between the Cracks: What Are We Still Missing About Suicide?

It’s easy to spot a broken arm. A fever. A bleeding wound. But emotional pain doesn’t show up on an X-ray.

Every year, millions struggle silently with suicidal thoughts—many of them never saying a word, even to those closest to them. While awareness campaigns, crisis hotlines, and school programs have increased over the years, the numbers remain sobering: over 700,000 people die by suicide globally each year, according to the World Health Organization. And for every death, there are countless others who attempt or contemplate it.

So what are we still missing?

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The Myths That Keep Us Quiet

One of the most dangerous beliefs is that talking about suicide puts the idea into someone's head. The truth? Talking about it—openly, calmly, and without judgment—can save a life. Research shows that when we ask people directly if they’re thinking about suicide, we open the door for connection, not destruction.

Another myth? That only people with diagnosed mental illness are at risk. In reality, suicide can affect anyone—those with chronic depression, yes, but also people facing acute grief, shame, relationship breakdowns, or financial ruin. Sometimes, it’s not a long battle with depression that leads to suicide—it’s a single overwhelming moment when hope disappears.

The Illusion of “Fine”

People who are suicidal often learn to wear the mask well. They go to work. They take care of their families. They say they’re “fine.”

But suicide is not about wanting to die—it’s often about not wanting to live with the pain. Many just want the suffering to end, not life itself. If we can be brave enough to ask the deeper questions—"How are you, really?"—we may begin to catch more of the signs before it’s too late.

How We Show Up Matters

You don’t have to be a therapist to make a difference. Sometimes, being a consistent, nonjudgmental presence is the most powerful thing you can offer. Show up. Check in. Listen. And take people seriously—even if their pain doesn’t look like your version of it.

Don’t say, “You have so much to live for.” Say, “You don’t have to go through this alone.”

Don’t try to fix it. Try to understand it.

And if you're the one struggling: You are not weak. You are not a burden. You are not alone.

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Hope Isn’t Just a Word—It’s a Lifeline

Suicide prevention isn’t just about crisis moments. It’s about building a culture where people feel safe being vulnerable. Where emotional pain is treated with the same urgency as physical pain. Where we check in with people before they reach the edge.

Because here's the truth: suicide isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s hidden in the quiet withdrawal, the missed texts, the smiles that don’t reach the eyes.

So we must ask:

How many people are suffering in silence right now—because we haven’t made it safe for them to speak?

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Breaking the Silence: The Hidden Struggles of Asian American Mental Health

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
Jan 15

Asian American mental health often goes unnoticed due to cultural stigmas that discourage open conversations about emotional struggles. Addressing the unique challenges faced by Asian American communities is crucial in providing accessible and culturally competent mental health care.

Breaking the Silence: The Hidden Struggles of Asian American Mental Health

When we think about mental health, the image that often comes to mind is one of individuals seeking therapy, reaching out for help, or discussing their emotions openly. But for many Asian Americans, this conversation remains locked behind a wall of silence, stigma, and cultural expectations. The truth is, mental health struggles in the Asian American community are often overlooked or ignored, even though they are just as real and significant as those experienced by anyone else.

The Unseen Struggles: Why Mental Health is Overlooked in Asian American Communities

In many Asian cultures, mental health is a deeply private matter. Mental illness is often seen as a source of shame, something that brings dishonor to the family or community. This cultural stigma can make it incredibly difficult for individuals to speak up about their struggles. According to a 2020 study published in The Journal of Clinical Psychology, Asian Americans are less likely to seek mental health care compared to their non-Asian counterparts, even when they are experiencing severe symptoms.

The idea of "saving face," or preserving one's dignity and reputation, is deeply ingrained in many Asian cultures. Asking for help is often perceived as weakness or failure, and this belief is compounded by the fear of being labeled as "crazy" or "unfit." This can leave individuals in the Asian American community suffering in silence, battling feelings of isolation, guilt, and shame. And, for those who do seek help, navigating a healthcare system that doesn’t always understand their cultural background can make treatment even more challenging.

The Impact of Cultural Expectations

Growing up in a family with high expectations—whether academic, social, or emotional—can place immense pressure on Asian American youth. In many cases, the emphasis is on achievement, perfection, and success. Failure to meet these standards can lead to feelings of inadequacy, fear of disappointing one's family, and, in some cases, the internalization of negative emotions that can manifest as anxiety, depression, or even suicidal thoughts.

In Asian American families, mental health issues are often framed as a personal failure rather than a medical condition that requires attention. Parents may not fully understand mental health struggles and might instead push their children to work harder or “snap out of it,” further reinforcing the stigma around mental illness. In extreme cases, this can lead to a sense of invisibility for those struggling, making them feel that their experiences are not valid or worthy of acknowledgment.

A Lack of Representation in Mental Health Resources

One of the biggest barriers to mental health support for Asian Americans is the lack of culturally competent professionals. According to the American Psychological Association, there is a significant shortage of mental health professionals who are trained to understand and address the unique challenges faced by Asian American clients. This lack of representation can lead to misunderstandings or misdiagnoses, further deterring individuals from seeking help.

Moreover, the traditional "talk therapy" model may not resonate with all Asian Americans, especially those from collectivist cultures. Approaches that emphasize family dynamics, spirituality, or community-based healing might be more effective, but they are often overlooked in mainstream mental health care. For this reason, it's crucial to advocate for more inclusive mental health services that take into account the diverse needs of the Asian American community.

The Power of Breaking the Silence

The first step in changing the mental health narrative for Asian Americans is to break the silence. Conversations about mental health need to happen within families, schools, and communities. It's essential to create safe spaces where individuals can talk openly without fear of judgment or ridicule. Initiatives like #HereForYou and community outreach programs are doing important work in breaking down barriers and raising awareness about mental health issues within Asian American populations.

There are also more Asian American mental health advocates, activists, and organizations than ever before. These efforts are critical in paving the way for a new generation of Asian Americans who feel empowered to take care of their mental health.

What Can We Do Moving Forward?

While there is much work to be done, there are steps we can all take to support the mental health of Asian Americans. First and foremost, it’s important to educate ourselves and others about the unique challenges this community faces. Empathy, understanding, and cultural competence are essential in fostering an environment where individuals feel comfortable seeking help.

Secondly, we must advocate for greater access to mental health services, particularly those that are culturally relevant and tailored to the specific needs of Asian American clients. By supporting organizations that work to increase representation and offer culturally-sensitive care, we can help ensure that no one feels alone in their struggle.

Finally, it's crucial to have open discussions. The more we talk about mental health within Asian American communities, the more we can reduce stigma and normalize seeking help. Every story shared, every conversation started, is a step toward healing.

Final Thoughts:

The time to break the silence is now. It’s time to lift the veil on mental health in the Asian American community and ensure that everyone has access to the support and resources they deserve. Mental health matters—your mental health matters.

What would happen if we all made it our mission to speak openly about mental health and reduce the stigma in our communities?