Rough Breakup? Can't Stop Crying? Try Recording It.
It works better than you think...
#Breakups suck, right? After dating someone for a while our hearts become intertwined, so if the relationship doesn’t work out in the end it becomes really devastating as it feels like a piece of you is missing. During our #heartbreak the person you would normally turn to is now gone, the isolation can start to feel pretty #intense.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a group of supporters with you during one of the most emotionally draining experiences of your life?
Misery loves company after all. While posting on social media after a breakup isn’t anything new, generation Z is utilizing it more than others and it may benefit their mental health.
In January, 24-year-old Kyleigh Hensler was dealing with a breakup that she said made her feel like "the complete opposite" of who she was. She spontaneously uploaded her own crying video on TikTok and it went viral.
Kyleigh said she made the video in order to make her own feelings of despair tangible and visible. She also hoped for communion with others. "I didn't post it for it to go viral, I posted it because I wanted to document how I was feeling, so I didn't feel so alone."
Kyleigh was surprised with the sheer volume of support she received from strangers online and that it did help her cope. People suffering similar heartbreak reached out to her for advice, while those who'd recovered left words of encouragement about the future.
These breakup videos are like a wake for a relationship. People can come and commiserate together, sharing stories of their relationship, tips they use to feel better (tiramisu is my go-to) or just words of #encouragement.
"I didn't post it for it to go viral, I posted it because I wanted to document how I was feeling, so I didn't feel so alone."
After a five year relationship, 23-year-old Ashley Singh was experiencing her first devastating heartbreak. Five months had passed already but Ashley was suffering through her worst day of grieving yet and had resorted to sobbing on the floor of her apartment. Wanting to document her experience, she pulled her phone out and hit record. Her TikTok video went viral and she received an outpouring of support.
Ashley said the video allowed her to be vulnerable and the outcome of that, connection. Old friends who'd lost touch reached out to offer encouragement and she made new friends with those who responded to her TikTok.
In fact, it also started a deeper conversation with her mother, who was shown the video by somebody else. "She didn't know how depressed I was at the time," Ashley said. "It kind of forced me to open up emotionally to my family."
Hopefully you don’t need to, but if you ever break up and are having a rough time cheering up, try #recording yourself. There is a whole world of support available to you.
News reference: insider.com/gen-z-tiktok-crying-breakup-videos-why-therapists-support-2022-11
Sam Barris
Columnist | Gaming & Tech Whiz of Moody Melon Magazine
I am a game developer, technical engineer, an animator and entrepreneur with a forward-thinking mindset to bring cool ideas into existence. In my free time I read lots of news articles. I enjoy using my knowledge of the IT world to give my opinions on various tech-related topics.
