Julie Y Barris
7 Ways To Get Over A Breakup Fast
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If you didn't know, most breakups happen in January. People blame it on the holidays where couples spend a bit too much time together or not enough. But, either way, when the big "B" word get dropped on you, it's time to think up a getting-over-your-ex plan. Even if it's still a little too soon for you, you are going to need one in the near future unless someone has a change of heart — but I wouldn't count on it.
#1 - Go out more
You've just become single again. "Hurrah!" your friends might say. Even if they didn't say that to your face, they might secretly be thinking it. Because hey, they miss you. You've been so focused on your own relationship that you've neglected your friends. That's totally normal and no one is blaming, however, you could really take this time to hang out and reconnect with them again. Whether it be going out to see a movie with your best buds or eating lunch together at a restaurant, now it's all possible. Pretty soon you will realize you can be just as happy (if not more) without your ex.
#2 - Go on a trip with friends
Sometimes getting over someone (or something) requires you to remove yourself from the place that triggers your thoughts of them. If you feel you've cried and sulked long enough over your breakup, it's time to think about going away for a while. Your friends would probably be more than thrilled to go on a road trip with you (New York City here we come!), or even fly to Europe (Paris! Paris! Paris!). The sky is your limit. The key here is to open up your heart for more possibilities and to embrace whatever life you have ahead of you (trust me, it's going to be wonderful!).
#3 - Date someone else
Perhaps the quickest way to get over your ex is to start dating again. Even if you just got dumped, you have to remember there are still plenty more fish in the sea. And when you go out more, it gives you that perfect opportunity to branch out and meet some new faces. Who knows, you might just run into the person you are supposed to be with at the bar or an ice skating rink tonight. Even if you don't find the one, you might end up making a bunch of new friends who eventually mean more to you than any exs of yours.
#4 - Work on a project
Remember that sewing project you reluctantly set aside because you were too busy doing things together with your ex (especially things they like but you've always hated, now you don't have to commit to them anymore, yay for you!)? Now you can pick it back up shamelessly. If you have no previous projects lined up, that's okay too. The good news is starting a new one is easy as long as you are determined. This will allow you to focus back on yourself, finding out more about your own likes and dislikes.
#5 - Unfriend/unfollow your ex's on social media
It's hard to get over someone when all you get is their news constantly in your face. So if you still have your ex as a friend on Facebook, consider deleting them. Similar with other social media platforms, unfollow them if you haven't yet. Keeping in touch with your ex or sticking your nose into their business is the worst way to move on. It's a signal that you are not quite ready to leave the old baggage behind. Sometimes, however, you just need to rip the bandage off "quick and painless" like Phoebe from the TV show Friends said.
#6 - Focus on work/school
If you are still in school, now you can be 100% focused on your academic goals instead of daydreaming about your relationship. And if you have a job, you might want to work an extra 10% (maybe 5% would do as well) harder just so you could move up the ladder like you've always wanted to. Keeping yourself focused on the current events around you is a good way to occupy your brain space so it doesn't go wandering off to a certain someone.
"If you feel you've cried and sulked long enough over your breakup, it's time to think about going away for a while."
#7 - Throw away things that remind you of them
This one is quite drastic. But, if nothing else works, and you are determined to get over this person (yes please!), then you can try throwing away things that remind you of them. Things such as photos you took together, or donate their left-behind clothes etc. Out of sight, out of mind as they say.
Keeping yourself busy helps distract your mind from wandering off to whom you shall not remember at the moment. The trick is to catch yourself (or have a friend help you) before that happens.
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Julie Y. Barris
Founder | Chief Editor | Advice Guru of Moody Melon Magazine
I am an author, artist, entrepreneur, and a graphic designer with a unique vision to contribute to the world one idea at a time. Besides creating and inventing things, I’m also fascinated by the human mind. I enjoy helping others help themselves by giving them advice on family and relationship matters.