Why Would Anyone Want to Sit in Pain All Day? The Surprising Reasons People Choose to Become Therapists

Julie Barris | Crisis Counselor | Therapist-in-Training
3 days ago
3 min read

The reasons people choose to become therapists are often rooted in personal healing, a desire to create safe spaces for others, and a deep calling to make meaning from pain. While the reasons people choose to become therapists vary, many are driven by a powerful mix of empathy, lived experience, and the belief that no one should suffer alone.

Why Would Anyone Want to Sit in Pain All Day? The Surprising Reasons People Choose to Become Therapists

Choosing to become a therapist is rarely about money or status. In a world chasing external rewards, therapists choose something else entirely: the chance to step into the intimate, unfiltered, and often painful corners of people’s lives.

They don’t do it for fame. There are no billboards for therapists. No trending hashtags. And yet, every year, thousands walk into this profession willingly—prepared to sit with trauma, grief, silence, confusion, and everything in between.

So why do they do it?

Pain Often Precedes Purpose

For many therapists, the choice is deeply personal. Some were once the ones sitting on the couch, unraveling their own pasts, finding words for feelings they were taught to hide. Others witnessed suffering in their communities, families, or even themselves—and knew there had to be a better way to support those who struggle.

Therapists Don’t Fix—They Witness

Contrary to popular belief, therapists are not in the business of giving advice or solving problems. Their true power lies in holding space—without judgment—for people to be exactly as they are. That kind of presence can be life-changing.

The role is less about "fixing" and more about walking beside someone through the hard stuff, holding their story gently, and showing them they are not alone in it.

The Emotional Labor No One Talks About

But make no mistake: the work is heavy. Therapists absorb stories that most people can’t bear to hear once—let alone every day. They sit with grief that isn’t theirs, pain they can’t touch, and hope they must sometimes hold alone until a client is ready to carry it themselves.

The emotional weight can accumulate. Burnout and vicarious trauma are real. That’s why practices like Moody Melon Counseling prioritize internal wellness as much as client care. Their team-based approach includes space for therapist check-ins, peer support, and continuing education that feeds the soul—not just the résumé.

(And yes, we're currently hiring for therapists who believe that feeling deeply is a strength—not a liability. Submit your resume at https://www.moodymeloncounseling.com/career)

The Beauty in the Breakdown

Despite the emotional toll, there is something deeply sacred about the work. The smallest moments—a breath of insight, a client’s first tear, the slow return of self-worth—can be profoundly moving.

Therapists often say that watching someone step into their own power is unlike anything else. It’s not about fixing someone’s life—it’s about helping them remember they deserve one.

A Quiet Privilege

Becoming a therapist is not a decision made lightly. It requires rigorous training, deep self-awareness, and a willingness to face discomfort regularly. But for those who choose it, the reward is found in connection, truth, and the quiet moments where healing begins.

In a noisy world, therapists offer something radical: silence that listens, presence without pressure, and a safe space to fall apart and rebuild.

The Question We All Should Ask

Therapists do this work not because it’s easy—but because it matters. And in choosing to sit with pain every day, they’re also making a profound statement:

No one should have to suffer alone.

So the real question is… If we all had someone who could sit with our pain without running from it—how different would the world be?

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